Becoming Our Destiny

Final post (at least for this blog)

2006-11-08T17:47:00.000-05:00

I'm sure this post isn't really necessary, considering the obviousness of my not having posted for months. No sense being in the blogosphere if you don't post at least somewhat regularly.

I was blessed during the time I interacted with many of the people here, and I pray that I will be able to do so again some time in the future.

I have thought about starting another (different) blog, but I want to make sure it's something I will hold to for a while. I did post here for about 8 months before trailing off. I wonder how many bloggers come and go after a short while.

Well, until we meet again, I thank you all for reading and participating, and I pray that any of my posts on your sites were a blessing as well.

Jeff

Long time gone; coming back slowly but surely

2006-07-28T13:30:00.000-04:00

Hi all,

It's been busy for my wife and myself these past several months since we've been preparing to move and find jobs here in Texas. We are now temporarily living in a hotel while our home is being built. We hope it will be finished before the end of August. So far it's looking great. Y'all come on down and we'll have a great time!

I'm going to try and answer some currently unanswered comments, but please forgive me if I don't get to all of them. I'm going to try to write at least something on a weekly basis.

God bless you all, and I look forward to slowly but surely catching up on your blogs as well.

Jeff

Quick update

2006-02-17T16:18:00.000-05:00

It's been so busy lately. We sold our home, and have staked a claim on property in Texas. I figure we'll need to be out of our current place some time near the end of April. We'll rent for a while in a place near where we live now before heading down some time in the summer. So in the next several weeks we'll have to get all of our stuff out of our place and put some in storage and get rid of some.

Because of the move--the busy-ness of the coming weeks and the shortness of time until we leave for Texas--my wife, Kim, and I are slowly backing out of our ministry responsibilities. I'm also still looking for employment in Texas--nothing for sure yet. Thankfully I have made some connections with people in upper management, who are letting others know about my job hunt. For the past 18 months or so, Kim and I have felt assured this is God's will, so we know He won't lead us astray. He may not work on our timetable, but He's never late. Kim is pretty much assured of employment, so I'm thankful for that. My position with my current company is by no means assured. There have been several downsizings since I've been in my current division, and from what I can see I'm very near to being the next one out whenever another downsizing occurs. So I'll most definitely need to find another job one way or the other. It doesn't look good for my current company--there are very few job openings of any kind available in the whole country, and nothing for my skills. Oh well. God has known this day would come.

We also have made slow but sure progress in our adoption paperwork. The dossier is a threatening pile of to-dos, but we know we have to take it one step at a time.

Our ongoing challenge with our medical insurance continues. I don't know how many hours I've spent on the phone trying to straighten things out. And each time it seems to be fixed, either something else happens with that situation or another problem develops with a different medical issue.

I do want to keep this blog going, and believe I will once things settle down a bit. Many thanks to those of you who still stop in every now and then to see how it's going or to say hello. God bless you, and God willing I'll be back.

Moving to Texas

2006-01-19T11:22:00.000-05:00

I realize my posting has been scant of late, but my wife and I have been very busy. I didn't want to write about our move to Texas until we told our family and other loved ones. But now I think it's safe to spill the beans. A couple of weeks ago my wife and I met with a real estate agent she knows, and we decided that now was a good time to put our home on the market. We plan to move some time in early to mid-summer, so please keep that in your prayers. For much of what would have been our free time we were cleaning and organizing and doing some minor repairs.

We are flying out to Kim's (my wife) sister and brother-in-law in Texas to visit and look at the available properties. We also will be meeting with a design team.

This year is also busy because we will be finalizing our adoption of Sarah Joy and flying to China to pick her up.

I will certainly fill you in with more details in the coming days and weeks.

Please keep this in your prayers. I apologize for not keeping up with the bloggers I usually visit quite regularly. For the next several months I might need to post and read other blogs less (I'll try for at least once per week), but once we get everything settled I hope to be blogging more regularly.

Be well and may the Lord bless you.

Jeff

Resolved: Make resolutions happen

2006-01-04T13:44:00.000-05:00

For those of you who have not yet become jaded by New Year's resolutions, just give it some time. The excitement of the calendar rolling over to January will one day become a knowing sigh that sounds something like, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." Twice? Ha!!! I can't count how many times I "vowed" to make the new year one that would lead people to write about how great of a person I was.

Oh, I was something special for a few days or even weeks. But once it no longer felt like a new year, the old Jeff started creeping back. Perhaps some of my resolutions stuck, but not necessarily because I kept thinking of them as resolutions. They simply became a part of me. Within a few weeks of New Year's Day, I probably couldn't remember what resolutions I made (maybe I need to resolve to be better organized so I can find my resolutions, eh?).

So why do resolutions so often go by the wayside, and how can we do better at making them stick? Here are some of my thoughts; please feel free to add yours:

First, I think we need to do away with the idea that somehow New Year's Day is the best day to resolve to do anything. If we see something about ourselves that needs changing, do something about it now. If I've waited until the new year, how resolved could I possibly be about addressing that issue in the first place?

We also need to always keep in mind M. Scott Peck's obvious but often forgotten truth: "Life is difficult." I don't know about you, but I tend to make resolutions when I feel excited about doing new things, but once the euphoria wears off and the challenges come, I'm ready to say "later." More often than not I will probably not feel like doing many of the things that have the potential to turn my life around, but I'll usually feel better afterward for having done them. In fact, even getting started makes me feel more motivated to do that thing than sitting there waiting for the motivation to hit me.

And perhaps we resolve to change too much too soon. I tend to create large lists of things I want to change about myself, and then I look at it and think, "It's too much." So I do nothing. Or I make half-hearted stabs. I think in the future I'll look at a handful of things that matter most in my life, and address them. At least I'll be a little better than I was by year's end. Hey, it beats setting lofty goals that I come nowhere near meeting.

Finally (at least for now), it might help me to visualize the potential outcomes based on doing/not doing what I resolve. What will I look and feel like in 20 years if I don't eat better and exercise more? How much joy will my wife experience if I write her more notes and cards?

I'll have to think through a handful of things I want to accomplish during 2006, and then pray for wisdom, courage, and strength to carry them out. May each of us be a little bit better come January 1, 2007. God bless you all.

New Year, resolution

The tragedy of miscommunication

2006-01-04T13:08:00.000-05:00

If you know how to Google the news stories about the mining tragedy in West Virginia, and put them in chronological order, you'll see a cacophony of fact and opinion rolled into what's purported to be news. As most of us now know, 12 of 13 miners have died, with the one survivor in critical condition. Of course, I'm not a reporter, so I'm just going by the latest I've read on this.

Many of those who call themselves journalists have shamed (even further?) the profession by printing an unsubstantiated report of the miner's survival. However the miscommunication occurred, that it somehow "became" fact spread across internet sites and newspaper covers shows the poor quality of fact-checking seen in our mainstream media. Let's hope the weeklies at least get it right.

God help those families who were celebrating what they thought was the miraculous recovery of their loved ones, only to find out later they were terribly misinformed. I can't imagine the tremendous letdown they felt, going from the highest of highs to the lowest of lows. We may never know for sure who said what where and to whom. What matters is that a severe disservice was done to these families and to the honor of journalistic integrity and professionalism.

And may that one miner who is the true and verified miracle find speedy recovery.

The attached picture can be found at http://apnews.myway.com/

Santa's real priority

2005-12-23T13:16:00.000-05:00

Have a wonderful, Christ-filled Christmas, all!

Christmas gift: Healed relationships

2005-12-22T13:37:00.000-05:00

My wife and I were recently discussing a relationship I have, barely, with somebody I would like to be closer with. Since I felt he hadn't pursued spending time with me (I feel I'm usually the one who initiates communication and plans to get together), I decided to let it remain at the status quo. After all, I thought, why bother? Does he feel that things are fine the way they are? Maybe he's not aware of how I feel. But my wife is challenging me to not leave it at that. She suggested I wish him a Merry Christmas, and then see if he initiates something in the near future. It needs to be a two-way street.

Part of the reason I've balked at moving forward is because it's scary. Will he accuse me of putting him down, saying "So you think I don't care? How could you?" Will he say, "I don't know what you mean. Things are fine between us." Will the initial moments of communication be so awkward that I'll wonder if it's so much easier to give up and say, "Well, I tried, but that's just the way it is"?

I'm sure I could have done better in our relationship. We need to talk about it and find out where we are, why we are there, where we want to go, and how best to get there. If it's not meant to be, then that's how it will have to be. But I shouldn't leave so many questions hanging.

Initially, I was frustrated that my wife brought it up. I wanted her to commiserate with my pouting. But she has always been one who, though she loves me as I am, cares enough to want me to make the best out of life. She wants me to have the best relationships possible. I am a much better person because of her prayers, support, and encouragement. And tough love. Sometimes even us adults need tough love.

Please pray for me during this time, that I will have the words to say, the proper timing, and the love and courage with which to say them. And if you are in a similar situation, let me know and I'll pray for you too.

The Real Santa Claus

2005-12-21T16:53:00.000-05:00

Gene Edward Veith at World Magazine shows us the real Santa Claus, a devout Christian named Nicholas of Myra, who participated as a delegate to the Council of Nicea in AD 325. He personally knew the One who provided him, and fellow believers, a better gift than he could ever deliver: eternal life. And he would likely be appalled at who he has (supposedly) morphed into.

HT to Doulos at Random Responses, where this article is linked from.

A (recycled) Christmas poem

2005-12-21T12:58:00.000-05:00

Here's a poem I wrote a couple of years back. Yes, unlike my stepson, I'm too lazy to actually work on something new! ;)

Christmas in Old Clothes
Christmas glitter gilds the town
Far as the eye can see:
Garland strung on every house,
Lights bright'ning every tree.

Shoppers shop until they drop;
The merchants clap with glee.
Wide-eyed children gape at gifts
They long for desperately.

A young boy and his sister
Hear Mom and Dad decree:
"Christmas cannot come to us
This year, unless it's free."

"Christmas free? How can that be?!"
Most shopping ads agree.
"Oh how indeed!" they wonder,
Those siblings, weepingly.

Just then they spot a veteran-
His smile wide as the sea-
Come to house of boy and girl
Where Christmas shall not be.

Their parents stare in wonder:
"He's far worse off than we.
His clothing looks so ragged,
And yet he's so carefree."

"I have a gift," he tells them.
The children shout, "Whoopee!"
While Mom and Dad both whisper,
"What kind of fool is he?"

He speaks to them of comfort
And precious majesty
That he has learned to notice
Since Christmas came for free.

"I've spent my share and then some,
And much has come to me
In packages and parcels
Which lie beneath the tree.

"Behold my few possessions;
Yet foolish would I be
To trade them for those presents
I loved so jealously.

"For in my heart is Jesus;
Look in my eyes and see
A joy, which He has given,
And which He offers thee."

For Jesus says, 'Where's Christmas
Amid this revelry?
Why do you have the season
And yet think not of Me?'"

"Kind sir, would you please tell us
How you expect that we
Could dare to ask for Jesus,
Yet offer poverty?

"Our rent's past due three months now;
Our bills we cannot meet.
The landlord has just warned us
We'll soon be on the street."

"Please listen, my dear people,
And take a look at me;
For what I have to give Him
Is only what you see.

"I too was shamed to face Him-
'What wretchedness you be,'
I've heard the folks of this town
Spew hatefully at me."

And yet I'm God's dear child;
While they, though rich may be,
Do worship worthless riches;
That's all the heav'n they see.

"You need to, therefore, offer
Yourselves on bended knee,
And hearts that are repentant
Toward Christ who died for thee."

"This gift, it is so precious.
What kind of Savior, He,
Who offers richest pardon
By perishing for me?

"Is that all He requires,
No costly gift or fee,
No presents He can open
From underneath a tree?"

"Please turn from holding onto
That which you now believe:
That gifts He holds most precious
Are underneath a tree.

"For we do quite insult Him
When giving as though we
Can gain from Him a present
Which He has granted free."

"Oh, let us now Him follow;
Let no more fettered be
Our hearts to dying riches.
He's joy, eternally."

Our son is so gifted

2005-12-21T12:46:00.000-05:00

My wife and I, along with her friend, watched our son's school production of Christmas Comes to Detroit Louie (see yesterday's post). He performed so well. I look forward to seeing him continue to blossom and show the world the gift God has given him. He doesn't merely recite in monotone. He gets into the character. That's quite special for a young teen. There's another play coming up in the Spring. Not sure what it is yet, but my wife and I are looking forward to it.

If you get a chance, read the script. There's a definite Christian message within. Being a public school, they had to tone it down somewhat, but I think they did mention the Bible and the "baby in the manger," so that's better than a lot of public schools. From what I could tell, there were no outcries of protest against it. Also, our son prayed with the other kids prior to the rehearsal and the play. He said it was OK since it was student initiated.

I pray that the true message of Christmas got through to the people who were watching. That the kids prayed in advance leads me to be encouraged about that.

How to fail: Get excited about planning, not doing

2005-12-20T12:11:00.000-05:00

I can get so excited about planning my life and my upcoming days. I have a pretty good picture of what I want to be down the road. Each month I take the time to think through and pray about what I can do for each key role (Faith, Fitness, Family, Friends, Favor, Finances, Firm, Fun) to move toward the vision I believe God has for me.

I put a check mark next to the things I've completed, and an X next to those things I neglected to do. So often at the end of the month, there are too many X's. So, I'll read something about motivation or inspiration or mission building, and I'll get all excited about next month. "OK, I'm really ready to rocket ahead this time," I tell myself. And yet as the month goes on, I'll realize I'm not keeping up.

Am I putting too much on my plate? Am I unfocused (I believe that is a problem of mine)? Do I depend too much on how I feel (probably)?

As for the "how I feel," I know that when I react to what I want to do rather than prioritizing what's best to do--despite the initial feelings, I end up feeling worse in the end than if I did what was best--which ultimately leads to good feelings.

How about you? Are you sometimes too big-eyed about your plans for your life? If you are falling behind your plans, do you think it's because you can't or won't keep up? What's holding you back? I'd love to hear some advice and testimonies. God bless. Let's be doers and not just planners.

A star of a son

2005-12-20T11:59:00.000-05:00

My 14-year-old stepson has landed the starring role of Detroit Louie in his school's production of Christmas Comes to Detroit Louie. He has shown his acting proficiency in past productions, and I believe he will excel in this play and in future acting endeavors. He stood out in as Mr. Potter in It's a Wonderful Life. My wife and I helped him rehearse for both plays, and he was so into it. I think it's great that a young teen can develop such a passion for something that can be so productive. God willing he'll have plenty more opportunities to show the talents God has given to him.

What are some things your children have done that have made you proud, and that have made you see something of a future talent or gift in them? For those of you with adult children, when did you first get the impression that they would become who they are now?

What inspires you to change?

2005-12-15T09:45:00.000-05:00

Earlier this week, I ministered to some teens at a nearby youth detention center. It's always an honor to bring God's word and love to these young men and women who have gone astray but who are now trying to get on the right path. When I finished, the pastor over that ministry thanked me, but added that I might want to include more of my personal experiences when I speak with them.

I can see his point. If they can see some of the struggles I've been through, even what I'm going through now, they'll realize that we all have it tought. We all make mistakes. And we stumble and get up, stumble some more, move forward, and so it goes.

Hopefully my blog has been at least somewhat balanced between talking of my failures and successes, giving examples of failures and successes from the news, and inspiration from Scripture. At least until heaven, only God will know what impact my words (and those who minister with their own blogs) will have. And I'm thankful for the feedback I've received from those who grace my blog with their presence.

I don't like reading blogs that only give instruction, with nary a word about their own person experience, including mistakes along the way. Maybe because they lack the human touch? Nor do I seek out those blogs that merely describe a person's day in the life (though these do seem to be quite popular; to each his own, I say). I guess I see the focus of my blog as a ministry. Some people like to just like to chat, and that's fine. Not every blog has to make a point of changing people.

But for those of you who like reading blogs that inspire you to grow into a better person, what do you look for? A slice of life mixed with instruction? Or more of one or the other? I'd love to hear from you on this. God bless.

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This color doesn't run

2005-12-15T09:37:00.000-05:00

The purple finger of an Iraqi voter who braved the perils of election day. God bless them all.

Tags: Iraq, news and politics, world news, terrorism

HappyNews.com

2005-12-14T17:37:00.000-05:00

OK, so it may not be the whole truth, but aren't we tired of news agencies focusing on the bad news so that we grow more and more cynical? Have you viewed the site? What's your opinion?

happynews.com

Cute, but it's been done before

2005-12-14T17:20:00.000-05:00

Mayor Roberto Pereira da Silva has proposed banning death as a way to protest a bill banning expansion or construction of cemeteries in their town.

Of course, about 2000 years ago Jesus "banned" spiritual death for those who believe on and trust in Him for new life. I know it won't happen, but imagine if God had to be concerned about heaven overflowing? Well, at the very least may the knowledge of Jesus Christ as the heart of the Christmas season greatly increase the number of future residents of heaven.

Tags: Mayor Roberto Pereira da Silva, Christmas

Depraved Iranian President

2005-12-14T16:38:00.000-05:00

Iranian President Mahmoud Ahmadinejad claims the Holocaust is a myth, and that Israel should be moved or wiped off the map.

Because of his power of office and of influence, Hitler and his propaganda machine convinced millions of Europeans that the Jews were deserving of sub-human status and, ultimately, extinction. President Ahmadinejad status will no doubt lead many Iranians to follow suit. Israel and the Jews have not exactly been honored by Europeans and the Middle East, so this will add fuel to an already smoldering fire. Unless there continues to be widespread denunciation of these comments, and unless the Iranian government itself takes President Ahmadinejad to task, a major conflagration could result.

The Bible says that to whom much is given, much will be required (Luke 12:48). The Lord has allowed the Iranian president his power (Romans 13:1), so that president is responsible to consider his thoughts before he puts them into words, especially knowing he may lead millions of Iranians to believe as he does.

I wield a much smaller reign. My influence is limited to my family and, to a lesser extent, the couples group my wife and I lead. I can't be sure how much the people in our group follow my words or example, but the fact I have been granted a leadership position by my church means they expect me, along with my wife, to influence for good and for God. If we are not having an impact, our leadership is little more than figurative. Believe me, I'm far from developing a cult of personality--in fact, I am very humbled by the fact I was even considered for co-leading the group. I realize that as a leader with the potential to influence a small group of people, I am ultimately responsible to God to a greater degree than if I didn't have such authority.

Dear Lord, please help this president see how his outrageous comments can cause grave harm. Open his eyes to the truth, especially the truth of who you are. Thank You for allowing my wife and I to lead our couples group. We are humbled and honored to be chosen, and may we honor and glorify You and bless those under our care. In Jesus' name, Amen.

Tags: Mahmoud Ahmadinejad, Iran, president, leadership

The devil's in the details

2005-12-14T16:29:00.000-05:00

Click the header for the story.

Are some cases of mental illness spiritually driven? Did this woman's history with Voodoo and Santeria mess up not only her spirit but also her mind? Either way, a 17-month-old girl, Ruby, is now dead because of this woman. May the Lord help her see the tragedy of dabbling in false religions, for they are of the devil. And may the court have wisdom in discerning what her frame of mind was when she killed her daughter.

Tags: Dawn Serrena Young, Ruby Young

The real center of Christmas

2005-12-13T16:03:00.000-05:00

My good friend and mentor Louise Bergmann DuMont gets to the heart of Christmas and cuts through the peripherals. Let's not forsake those fun and comforting things, but may we leave them secondary to why Jesus ultimately came.

Click the header for her post.

Sweet Christmas story

2005-12-13T15:31:00.000-05:00

OldGuy has a touching Christmas story (click the header above). Such are the gifts that really matter.

"Let's go outside," or "Let it slide"?

2005-12-13T12:14:00.000-05:00

I forgot my cell phone this morning. How do you respond when you forget things, when you make mistakes? I too often choose (I guess I should realize it is a choice) to beat myself down. "How stupid!" and "I'm such an idiot" come forth too easily. True, there are times when I'll be more decent to myself (and, I suppose, even times where I'll be too easy on myself).

My criticism also extends to others who have directly or indirectly wronged me. Too often (again) it's a reaction rather than a carefully thought out response. Which usually leads to an angry counter-reaction from those people, or they are totally oblivious to my anger. Either way, I must question whether my actions have led them to be more responsible, polite, etc. And I all the more must question whether I have glorified and pleased God (so many times I have been ashamed that I have a Christian fish symbol on my car after I have acted in a quite un-Christian manner).

I hate when I act so angrily toward myself and others. Rarely do I look back after the fact and say, "Boy, I'm glad I belittled myself," or "That idiot had it coming." Yes, I still want to get angry in a godly way, in a way that helps the person and the situation. I want to be led by the Holy Spirit, not my own flesh.

But why do I get so angry sometimes? Like I said above, it's so often a reaction--it explodes from me. I have snapped at my wife more than once; she was totally taken aback, since I'm usually so mild-mannered. I didn't sit there and carefully consider how my words would impact her or the situation, I just blurted them out. And then deeply regretted it.

So why do I snap? Why do I call myself and others hurtful names? Is it influenced by the fact that certain people did so to me during my childhood? Do I feel that by putting others down, I can make myself seem better (oh, and how often I have railed against those who climb on others backs to success!)? I wrote recently about how busyness keeps me from knowing myself better. This morning I was listening to an old sermon by Pastor Jack Hayford. The title was called, "Integrity of Heart." He said that it's not merely the sin that's the problem, it's when we don't listen to our heart speaking the truth as to how it's doing, and what it needs. I may try to make myself think that I'm helping the situation by yelling at a driver, but deep down I might just want to hurt that person's spirit. Of course, when I react rather than carefully respond, I don't allow myself time to consider my motives. Or, to dig even deeper, I might be ashamed of my own inadequacy in a certain area, so therefore I need to falsely elevate myself by "proving" to myself how bad the other person is.

Do you find that how you respond to your own mistakes parallels or differs from how you respond to the mistakes of others? What is at the core of your responses? Do you usually have a well thought out and helpful response? Or are you still struggling with reacting in hurtful anger? Or maybe you're still reacting improperly, but you've learned some things. In any event, I'd love to hear from you, and pray with you so that we all may grow toward Christlikeness.

Tags: anger management

Getting "back" to normal

2005-12-09T14:43:00.000-05:00

Here's a very good rendition of what I looked like this past Sunday night. As I hurried to get stuff out of the car, I stepped on a patch of ice and landed flat on my back. My stepson saw it all, and somehow managed to stifle a laugh (well, at least until the next day, when he repeatedly acted out my accident!). While it was quite painful (I still feel twinges at times), I'm so thankful my head didn't meet the pavement first.

It's ironic that I had been commenting about black ice on the roads not long before. Maybe I'll be reminded next time to be extra careful. After all, dangers are hidden all about, unless we are alert to them.

Just like I should have been more alert then, or this morning when I hit a patch of ice while driving to work and nearly skid into the center divider on the highway.

2 lives down, 7 to go?

By the way, if you get a chance, read some of the wisdom in the posts below. As you can see, I'm struggling in the wisdom area lately!

Christmas banners and children's comments

2005-12-09T14:14:00.000-05:00

Check out these wonderful banners, and the beautiful words about them by the kids at Zum Kripplein Christi Lutheran Elementary School. Sorry I didn't see them sooner (they're from December 1). By the way, did you know that Zum Kripplein Christi means "at the little manger of Christ"? May we appreciate the Child in the manger who came to us and grew up for the purpose of saving us from our sins, and giving us abundant life as a bonus.

Matt's Fight

2005-12-09T13:29:00.000-05:00

Matt's Fight
Matt had suffered a serious accident, and thank God he's now doing quite well. Send him your well wishes and make his Christmas even better

LAIR OF THE PENMAN

2005-12-09T13:17:00.000-05:00

LAIR OF THE PENMAN

Do you see things through God's eyes, or your own. William eloquently shows us the blessings of doing the former. A post that, quite interestingly, parallels that of Broken Messenger below.

How Does God View Suffering

2005-12-09T12:58:00.000-05:00

Broken Messenger gives us John Piper's view of this. Let him (and me, if you wish) know what you think. I, personally, think it works. God is outside of time, so while we can live in hope for a better tomorrow, He already knows that tomorrow is not a will be, but an is. Maybe the more we're focused on God, the better we'll see things through His eyes.

Paul's Ponderings

2005-12-09T12:53:00.000-05:00

Paul at Paul's Ponderings reminds us that we should seek more to serve than to gain power over others. I think it's a good message, especially since Jesus came to earth to serve. May we all find people we can bless with our service this Christmas season.

Tagged: Seven Sevens

2005-12-08T14:27:00.000-05:00

Eph2810 at Sting My Heart tagged me with the following:

Seven things I hope to do before I die:

Know I did the best I could with what I had
Be even more happily married
Watch our children lead godly lives
Have lots of grandkids
Travel to Israel
Travel to Ireland
Get in better shape (or I will die!!!)

Seven things I cannot do:

Dance
Play video games
Most things involving fixing cars or electronic gadgets
Get up easily in the morning
Be around whiners
Balance the checkbook
Remember where I put things

Seven things that attract me to my spouse (significant other, best friend):

The attention she pays me
Heart for the Lord
Love of children
Hugs
Kisses
How she has helped me grow
Her desire to adopt a girl from China

Seven things I say often:

Outstanding!
I love you
I don't remember
Honey, do you know where I put my...?
Come here (to my honey, when I want a hug)
Hi, beautiful (again, to my honey)
I'm going to be late

Seven books or book series I love (apart from the Bible, which should be obvious)

Achieving Authentic Success, by Ron Jenson
What Color is Your Parachute, by Richard Nelson Bolles
Disciplines of a Godly Man, by R. Kent Hughes
Over the Top, by Zig Ziglar
Finishing Well, by Bob Buford
Invitation to the Classics, by Louise Cowan and Os Guinnes
The Chronicles of Narnia, by C. S. Lewis

Seven movies I would/do watch over and over again (seems this question has evolved):

Lord of the Rings
Casablanca
Citizen Kane
Braveheart
The Patriot
The Wizard of Oz
Raiders of the Lost Ark

Seven people I want to join in this seven sevens meme:

Upcoming Iraq elections and true bravery

2005-12-08T11:20:00.000-05:00

I heard on news radio this morning that true to form, the terrorists, who hate not having complete control over others, are ramping up their murderous attacks on both military and civilian personnel in a pathetic attempt to keep people from going to the polls in the upcoming elections.

However, I'm betting the numbers at the polls will be impressive. Most Iraqis won't be armed with bombs and others weapons. They'll be armed with a commitment to make Iraq a better country. They'll be armed with the knowledge that to not vote is to allow evil to once again overtake that nation. They've been there. They've seen or heard about the brutalities committed by Saddam and his lackeys. And they know that things could be at least as bad under the rule of these terrorists. So forced to choose between risking their lives now for a better tomorrow, or surrendering to the fear and having no hope for a better tomorrow, I believe that by and large they will choose to step up and vote.

May God grant those terrorists the wisdom to see that they are on the path of destruction, and that only people with a distorted sense of morality support their cause. And may God bless those brave men and women in Iraq who simply want a chance to live a life of dignity and peace.

Help brighten their Christmas and holiday season

2005-12-08T10:27:00.000-05:00

Here are some names I found at a reliable source. They are soldiers, wounded in battle, who will be spending their Christmas and holiday season in the hospital. Please take the time to write them a card to say "Merry Christmas," "I'm praying for you," "Thank you for all you're doing," etc.

May the Lord be with these men and women, and may they know that we overwhelmingly support them and thank them.

Capt. James Ollinger
Sgt. Zavian Simspon (that's the way it's spelled, so I assume it's correct)
Specialist Brian Radke
Specialist Jason Braase
Sgt. David Nevins
Sgt. Jose Ramos
Cpl. Todd Bishop
Sgt. Ryan Donnelly
Sgt. Eva Diane Cochran

Send cards and care packages c/o:
Walter Reed Army Medical Center
6900 Georgia Avenue NW
Washington, DC 20307-5001

Here's a military site with lots of links that give you opportunities to show support to our troops in various ways. I'm sure they would love to hear from us, especially this time of year.
America Supports You

Iraq, Walter Reed Army Medical Center, America Supports You

A great response to a horrible attack

2005-12-07T16:20:00.000-05:00

On December 7, 1941, Pearl Harbor, Hawaii suffered a surprise attack early in the morning. We can argue about whether the bigwigs had an inkling, or more, of what was coming, but the average person just waking up that morning (though some never woke up) had no clue. Wave after wave of Japanese planes decimated several ships and other structures. The response that day from our men and women proved what we are made of. Though shocked and afraid, though hurt and tottering, they worked through their fear, which is what courage is all about, and stood up as best they could to the overwhelming force against them.

Yes, we have proven throughout our history that "these colors don't run." This is just one of many examples, and God willing we'll keep electing leaders who will never give up when our liberties and honor are endangered. And may we keep instilling in our posterity the notion that failure to stand for what's morally right is the prelude to falling for what is morally wrong (I heard that from Zig Ziglar). God bless our great nation, and our brave troops.

Tags: Pearl Harbor, World War II, WWII

Pictures of success and failure

2005-12-07T13:01:00.000-05:00

What does authentic, godly success look like? How about failure (again, from God's perspective)? I've decided to brainstorm some ideas here. They are mostly generic; I do need to apply the success parts to specific areas of my life, however.

Of course I don't have all the answers, so please let me know what you think authentic, godly success is. Thanks and may the Lord grant you joy and success in reaching the destiny He has for you.

SUCCESS

Knowing Christ as Savior and Lord. It shouldn't just be about not going to hell, or even only about going to heaven. Yes, these are great things. But our life on earth should reflect our love for and obedience to Him
Growing into who God created us to be and do
"The chief end of man is to glorify God and enjoy Him forever." (Westminster Shorter Catechism)
Doing the best we can in all key areas of life (for example, faith (spiritual life, character), fitness (mental, emotional, physical), family, friends, finances (including possessions), firm (career, education), favor (giving, ministry), fun
Focusing on the roots (what we can control)
Loving unconditionally (this doesn't mean everybody is our friend, but what we hate is the sin, not the person)
Loving and honoring our spouses and children
Having at least a couple close friendships
Taking responsibility
Being proactive
Having a "Judeo-Christian" work ethic
Taking the necessary actions to grow
Knowing ourselves well (balancing how we see our strengths and weaknesses
Feeling deeply
Learning to see problems as opportunities to grow. Yes, we should grieve deep losses, but we should not allow them to dominate our thinking and emotions for years.
Rejoicing amid (though certainly not for) problems
Believing the best about people unless and until they prove otherwise (and then believing that God can redeem even the most lost among us)
Making the best use of the time we have
Having an attitude of gratitude
Loving what's right and hating what's wrong
Doing the right thing no matter how unpopular it may be
Knowing our purpose in life, and pursuing it passionately
Balancing our time alone, with family, with friends, and at work
Surrendering to God moment by moment
"Never give in. Never give in. Never, never, never, never." Winston Churchill

OK, that's a start for success. To picture failure, look at some of these and think about what would happen if we did the opposite (e.g., not being thankful, being reactive, trying to please others more than God). I'd love to see what God has put on your heart regarding what authentic success looks like. God bless.

Success means going all out

2005-12-02T12:30:00.000-05:00

The Way I Was Made,

by Chris Tomlin

Caught in the half-light, I'm caught alone
Waking up to the sunrise and the radio
Feels like I'm tied up, what's holding me?
Just praying today will be the day I go free

I want to live like there's no tomorrow
I want to dance like no one's around
I want to sing like nobody's listening
Before I lay my body down
I want to give like I have plenty
I want to love like I'm not afraid
I want to be the man I was meant to be
I want to be the way I was made

Made in Your likeness, made with Your hands
Made to discover who You are and who I am
All I've forgotten help me to find
All that You've promised let it be in my life

Last night, my wife and I were looking through catalogs getting ideas for Christmas gifts, and I came across a gift set including this song. She had previously talked about how much she liked it, which is understandable since she goes all out in her fervor for the Lord and for life. When something wonderful happens, she gets ecstatic. When something terrible happens, she sobs deeply. I was thinking about getting her the set, or something related, as a way to show how much I think this song resonates with her life. I think it also resonates with how God wants us to live.

I have come to realize that while she's well on her way to living out what the songwriter hopes for in his life, I still have a ways to go. So maybe God brought this song across my path not just for her, but also for me.

One of my email addresses reflects my desire to live all out for God and life. Yet I find myself, maybe not consciously, but out of habit(?), putting artificial limits on my emotions and excitement. Is it because I'm a man? I've seen too many passionate men to believe that excuse. Am I afraid of rejection ("I can't be seen around you!")?

Henry David Thoreau went to Walden Pond. Why? "I wanted to live deep and suck out all the marrow of life." He needed to get away from the hustle and bustle and seek solitude so he could better know himself. I too readily seek busy-ness, especially when things get rough. If the pressure's on, or I'm feeling rejected, I'll keep my mind occupied so I don't have to feel. Nothing gets resolved, mind you; the suppressed emotions will come out at another time, probably inappropriately.

Imagine walking up to Jesus at Gethsemane. He knows He must drink the cup of suffering. Today, we know what really happened. He felt the agony so deeply that he sweat drops of blood, a condition known in medical circles as hematohidrosis. It comes about in times of great stress or agony.

But imagine walking up to a different Jesus, one like so many men:

"What's the matter, Lord?"

"Huh? What?" He says, quickly turning away.

"Are You crying?"

"Crying? Ha! That's for sissies. I, um, just got some dust in my eyes."

"Would you like to share how You're feeling. I know this is such a difficult time for You."

"Nah. It's not so bad. Sometimes you just gotta tough it up and take it like a man. And don't tell anybody that I was crying. Not that I was, mind you. But imagine what people would say if they even thought that was the case."

Ridiculous, huh? How could you get excited about following that? No, I believe Jesus experienced delightful joys and terrible sorrows. He lived like there was no tomorrow. On earth, that is. He knew an eternity of tomorrows with the Father in heaven awaited Him on the other side of the cross.

He came to give us abundant life, now (John 10:10). Dear Lord, help us to live all out so that we better reflect who You are. Help us to feel great joys and deep sorrows, and to pour ourselves out like the apostle Paul did during his short time on earth. Our life on earth is but a vapor; why care so much about pleasing people more than You, especially people we hardly even know? Thank you for drinking so deeply of life, giving us an example and inspiration for ourselves. People have loved you so deeply, because You opened Your heart to them. May we know such heights and depths of emotion and fervor in our lives. In Jesus' name, Amen.

Tags: Chris Tomlin, The Way I Was Made, success, destiny

My December planner

2005-12-01T14:55:00.000-05:00

Here's what I hope to get accomplished in December that will move me closer to the vision I believe God has given me for my life. Earlier today, the following came to mind. The wording may be new, but the message is eternal: "Say yes to the best, no to the rest." If I can say yes to doing those things that are best for God's glory and my ultimate purpose, and no to other things, I'll be doing well. Please pray that I'll be wise in discerning what those things are.

So these are the minimums I expect to do this month. This is not necessarily complete, and is subject to some slight adjustment:

Faith
Study notes from church services, pray about how to apply key concepts
Pray with wife each morning when possible
Focus on God's presence
Blog 3 times/week
Read faith-related blogs 3 times/week

Fitness
Exercise twice weekly (1 aerobics, 1 strength)
Read three times weekly on physical fitness
Journal my thoughts and key happenings daily
Process notes from Achieving Authentic Success, the "success overview" part

Firm
Organize office space
Have a decent understanding of job search process
Have basic work accomplishments and goals written in preparation for job search

Family
Buy Christmas presents
Romance my wife more (notes, surprise gifts, a nice date, etc.)
Find ways to spend more time with stepson
Read on China to better understand future adopted daughter's culture
Weekly game night
Get a better understanding of work-provided benefits for adoption

Friends
Have a good conversation with each close friend
Read on improving conversation skills

Finances
Organize files in briefcase (as you can see, I am not the best at organizing!)
Review finances twice

Favor
Be ready to speak at youth detention center

If you are also trying to maximize your life for God's glory, how about letting me and others know what you are going to do this month to move in that direction so we can pray for one another and be accountable? God bless!

BTW, if anybody knows how to make a sticky post for Blogger, please let me know. It would be nice to have this as the first thing to look at each during the month so others can see it and I can truly be held accountable.

Dillon Stewart, hero

2005-11-30T15:25:00.000-05:00

Dillon Stewart, Brooklyn police officer, died in the line of duty while chasing a fleeing suspect. Though shot, this brave man continued pursuing the murderer until he was too weak.

He leaves behind a wife and two children. I couldn't bear to experience their grief at this time. I hope that amid their grief, somewhere deep down, they are able to rejoice in the legacy he left behind.

Lord, please comfort the family and other loved ones of this honorable man, especially during this usually festive season. Help them to always hold him close in their hearts, and celebrate who he was and what he stood for. We thank you that such heroes still walk this earth, defending us against the evil in our midst. May people realize that this is true love, giving oneself to save others, as you did on the cross.

Tags: Dillon Stewart

Born again through abortion?

2005-11-30T13:06:00.000-05:00

[Click the header for the story]

Sadly, this self-professed Billy Graham wannabe has distorted utilitarianism to its perverted conclusion--that destroying one life to benefit the selfish desires of the mother is somehow akin to saving her soul. Will the selfish now be blessed, because theirs is the kingdom of heaven?

Apparently what led Dr. Harrison to begin this crusade was when a woman came in his office in 1967. When he told her she was pregnant, she replied, "'Oh, God, doctor, I was hoping it was cancer.'" How anybody could consider an unborn baby worse than cancer is beyond me, and such a statement should have led the doctor to seek help for such a misled woman.

Instead, his desire to rid the world of any children their mothers might be considered a "cancer" has led him to commit some 20,000 abortions since 1973, when Roe v. Wade supposedly made abortion legal. Now that John Roberts heads the Supreme Court, Dr. Harrison fears Roe v. Wade could be reversed, harming his ability to provide more of his supposed saving graces.

"He calls himself an 'abortionist' and says, 'I am destroying life.' But he also feels he's giving life: He calls his patients 'born again.'

"'When you end what the woman considers a disastrous pregnancy, she has literally been given her life back,' he says."

Does this mean that Dr. Harrison agrees with the infamous "health of the mother" defense, which "legitimizes" abortion for any reason, including the mother simply not wanting her baby because it cramps her style? Any pregnant woman can claim her pregnancy is "disastrous" and evoke the "pity" of an abortion doctor. Harrison want his patients' pregnancies to be joyous rather than feel like an obligation. Sorry doctor, but life ain't easy. I want my job to be joyous; it's often not. I don't really want to bear the burden of cleaning our home; should I therefore seek to have a law passed that will protect my emotional "well-being"? When these women enjoyed sexual intercourse, did they consider the implications of their actions? In many cases, they did not even try birth control methods. They just figured they'd enjoy themselves now, and worry about any "consequences" later. Dr. Harrison prefers they use birth control if they don't want to become pregnant, but their carelessness does not lead him to change his mind about providing abortions for them.

Amanda, a pregnant 20-year-old, believes she has also seen the light: "'I've been praying a lot and that's been a real source of strength for me. I really believe God has a plan for us all. I have a choice, and that's part of my plan.'" So whose plan is it, Amanda, yours or God's? It seems that because Amanda doesn't feel ashamed for getting the abortion, that makes it OK. That abortions are so common adds to her sense of legitimacy.

Sarah, another patient of his, has been sexually active for six years. She doesn't want a pregnancy to make her wedding dress hard to fit into, so off to Dr. Harrison she goes. He'll "redeem" her as well.

Does the LA Times support him and these women? "He has learned to focus on the facts he considers most important: This woman does not want to be pregnant. He can give her back control of her life and keep a child from coming into the world unwanted. He believes in this so strongly, he waives his fees for women who can't come up with the money."

OK, I've seen nothing in this story about any of these women being forced into sex. And I seriously doubt that a large percentage of his 20,000 patients were raped. The focus seems to be on the fact that the discomfort started after the sexual act, when they discovered they were pregnant. They were in control of their lives during the sexual act, and I doubt any of them were shocked to discover that pregnancy sometimes follows.

May the Dr. Harrisons of the world see the truth: that Jesus gave his life so that we might be born again. He would be appalled at this distortion of such a sacrifice.

Tags: William Harrison, abortion, born again, Arkansas, Fayetteville Women's Clinic

Don't settle for crumbs

2005-11-28T16:23:00.000-05:00

And behold, a Canaanite woman from that region came out and was crying, "Have
mercy on me, O Lord, Son of David; my daughter is severely oppressed by a
demon." 23But he did not answer her a word. And his disciples came and begged
him, saying, "Send her away, for she is crying out after us." 24He answered, "I
was sent only to the lost sheep of the house of Israel." 25But she came and
knelt before him, saying, "Lord, help me." 26And he answered, "It is not right
to take the children's bread and throw it to the dogs." 27She said, "Yes, Lord,
yet even the dogs eat the crumbs that fall from their masters' table." 28Then
Jesus answered her, "O woman, great is your faith! Be it done for you as you
desire." And her daughter was healed instantly. (Matthew 15:22-28, ESV)

Jesus is testing this woman's faith. He tells her that He came only for the Jews, but she knows that in Him alone is hope for life and victory. In Bruce Marchiano's portrayal of Jesus in the Visual Bible's presentation of the book of Matthew, Jesus is portrayed as being full of vibrance and joy. During this scene, when she is willing to settle for even the "crumbs" of His ministry, a big smile comes across His face. Of course, it would be out of character for Jesus to provide only crumbs for her; that moment her daughter is healed.

I don't think God wants us to settle for crumbs in our relationships either. My wife had seen me doing that, and it really bothered her. And it bothers me deeply when my wife, my soul mate, the woman to whom my heart is knit, is not valued properly. I read a book where a woman went to meet a friend at a restaurant to discuss a matter of great personal importance. She started pouring her heart out, only to discover that her friend's attention was not on her but on the TV show behind her. Of course, the woman was crushed. She wanted attention and compassion, but got crumbs. When my wife and I are merely given crumbs while putting our hearts out to others, we too are crushed.

Yes, we should love everybody unconditionally, but I believe that God wants us to spend most of our time around those who build us up and truly care about us. He tells us not to be unequally yoked. How many times have you heard about couples where one is not a Christian? So often, it's the Christian who compromises his values to the non-believing spouse. If that's the case in marriage, should we not expect that hanging around non-Christians, or selfish Christians, or uncaring Christians, will bring us down as well?

My wife and I have decided we have plenty of people in our lives who love us deeply, who clearly enjoy spending time with us, who value what we say. They welcome us into their homes with open arms, and when others are present they treat each person with equal respect. They go out of their way to make us feel valued. That's true friendship, the kind Jesus would smile at. So why should we settle for crumbs when such a feast awaits us?

And it should go without saying that we aren't going to offer crumbs in our relationships either. Only miserable people do, after all. May the Lord help us to love abundantly and joyously, as He does.

English Standard Version (ESV)
The Holy Bible, English Standard Version Copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a division of Good News Publishers.

Tags: success, destiny, relationships, religion, Bible

Some more blogger thanksgiving posts

2005-11-23T15:12:00.000-05:00

Before I go, here are a few more thanksgiving offerings from fellow bloggers:

Eph2810 wishes us a Happy Thanksgiving, and gives thanks that we are like pumpkins (you'll have to see for yourself).

Paul at Paul's Ponderings challenges us to be thankful if, like Job, we lost it all, and to show our thanks for what we have by using it honorably.

Epiac's Place provides a short history of Thanksgiving.

I was hoping I would find more sooner. I surfed several times that number of blogs, but Thanksgiving posts are scarce. Just do a Technorati search for thanksgiving (click below), and I'm sure you'll find more good ones.

Tags: Thanksgiving

Happy Thanksgiving; gone for a few days(?)

2005-11-23T14:10:00.000-05:00

To all you bloggers and blog readers,

Have a wonderful Thanksgiving. May you appreciate all the bountiful blessings the Lord has provided. I might be away from this blog for a few days, but I look forward to interacting with you when I get back.

Jeff

Thanksgiving Prayer

2005-11-23T14:02:00.000-05:00

Lord,

Thank You for who You are. You are the only true God, and the only being worthy of worship. In You alone is our hope of salvation; that You would offer your very life on behalf of such wretches as ourselves is unfathomable. That You would use us to help show forth your glory is an honor beyond words.

Thank You for my wife, Kim, and son, John, and for our adopted daughter to be, Sarah Joy. I wondered if I would ever find the right woman and get married, and You have shown your impeccable timing and perfect will by bringing along a woman whose heart is so beautiful and with whom I can be united in spirit through You. Along with her, I am so blessed to have her teenage son as well. John has such great potential, and an even greater heart. I eagerly await the arrival of Sarah Joy. Kim is so wonderful and loving with children, as she has shown by her dedication at the day care where she works; and she can't get Sarah soon enough. And John will be a big brother Sarah will love, as does his younger brother Joey.

Thank You for our parents, who provided our needs and helped us grow into responsible adults, and for our brothers and sisters. Thank You for our friends at church and at work. Kim, John, and I have been so blessed to grow deeper in relationship with our Touch Group family, and with so many people we meet each Sunday.

Our church leaders have provided us a firm foundation for your truth and have shown us that a relationship with God can be powerful and joyous. We are better ministers both inside the church and out because of their godly influence.

Thank You for providing us a comfortable home to live in, food to eat, and a place to work. We are not wealthy, and have no desire to be. We're thankful for our daily bread, so whatever else You provide is extra special.

Thank You for our wonderful country, and for the brave men and women fighting overseas who help preserve our liberty and honor.

We don't know what awaits us in the future, but we're so blessed that You'll be there in the midst to guide us through it. If difficulties, we know You'll use them to refine us. If good times, they will be so much better knowing You are in them. All in all, it will be perfect.

I realize I've fallen far short in recognizing all You have given us, so I pray that in the coming days, weeks, and months as more comes to mind I will continue to show my gratitude for all You have done. Of course, my greatest thanks will be shown in living a life that pleases You and blesses others.

Your humble servant, Jeff

Tags: Thanksgiving

What are you thankful for losing, or not having?

2005-11-22T15:45:00.000-05:00

In my previous post, Coloconnect reminds us that we can also be thankful for things we have lost, or don't have. So in what ways are you thankful for things you have lost, or never had?

For me, I'm most thankful I'm not really rich or good looking or popular or talented, because I know that if I was I'd find it hard to think I needed God (even though He provides all we have). I'm also thankful I have lost my keys and other things on several occasions, because it helps me realize how much I need my wife to keep me better organized, and it also shows her grace in putting up with me whenever I do lose or misplace things (which is quite often)!

Tags: Thanksgiving

Thanks to some thankful bloggers

2005-11-22T15:15:00.000-05:00

Here are some posts you might like from truly thankful bloggers.

Paul, at Paul's Ponderings has this post giving thanks for our very lives, which God holds in His hands. Read the link to the Relevant Magazine story that shows an example of how precious life can be.

This post at Broken Shivers isn't necessarily about Thanksgiving, but I think it shows how grateful Johnny is (as am I) for all of us "insignificant" Christians who really do make a difference for God's kingdom. Thanks for the encouragement, Johnny!

Jon at Jon's Web Journal encourages us to be thankful, and to share what it is we're most thankful for. Let him, and others, know.

Please offer both thanks and intercession for Matt at Matt's Fight, whose recovery from serious burns progresses, but not without struggles and setbacks.

Here's a nice Thanksgiving prayer, which encourages us to show how thankful we are by reaching out to the less fortunate.

The bloggers at Zum Kripplein Christi Lutheran Elementary School have several posts about Thanksgiving. Read what Sarah has to say about slowing down and offering thanks, not just today but everyday. Justin reminds us it's not just about turkeys, but the Maker of turkeys, and the Savior of our souls. Daniel realizes that we shouldn't be selfish and take what we have for granted. And Rachel offers her well wishes. And like Rachel, why not write some cards or notes to share your thankfulness with others.

Coloconnect at Second Chances reminds us with this bit of humor that we should also be thankful for what we are not and do not have.

Let's join Barbara at Mommy Life in thanking God for Daniel, her son with Down's Syndrome who was having a period of antisocial behavior but is now much happier. Pray that their Thanksgiving will be especially joyous. And look at pictures of a happy Daniel while you're there.

Here, Dr. Ralph Wilson tells us of Miles Standish and the first Thanksgiving. Take his message to heart, and don't allow all you have to lead you away from thankfulness. "The Pilgrims lived close to the edge of survival. Perhaps that is why they were so thankful."

Tomorrow, I'll post some more. Have a great Thanksgiving, and may the Lord be blessed and honored above all that day.

Tags: Thanksgiving

BotB suicide?

2005-11-21T17:10:00.000-05:00

OK, so I'm trying to balance the battles I make and take at Battle of the Blogs. At times I'll choose battles with people whose records are much better (and most are). At other times I'll choose battles with blogs that have worse records (much harder to find those). As of now, I'm ranked #2116 (somehow I keep managing to avoid the bottom 50--yea!). I just accepted a battle with a blog ranked #5. That oughta be interesting. Will I get any votes? Will I pull a huge upset? I think I'll laugh from the obviousness of it all if I get creamed, and sit stunned if I win. After I had lost my first 20 contests in a row (or something like that), I'm now 5-23, so I'm on a roll (ha-ha!).

Tags: Blog Explosion, Battle of the Blogs, botb

Enhancing our thanks-giving

2005-11-21T13:10:00.000-05:00

I was pondering how to make our thanks more meaningful, and as I searched through the Bible several verses and concepts stood out. We all know we need to give thanks when we are given something, so I won't cover that obvious aspect (although, sadly, it's not obvious to some). I pray God will use this to bless you. And if you have anything to add regarding how to enhance giving thanks, please let me know.

First of all, Jesus was a thankful person. In a mystery only God can fully unravel, Jesus set aside some aspects of His deity when He came to earth (that does not mean he became any less than God, mind you). So He was dependent upon the Father. For example, in John 17:8, Jesus says, "Because the words that You gave Me, I have given them." And in John 14:24, He says, "The word that you hear is not Mine but is from the Father who sent Me."

As I said, Jesus was a thankful person. And since we are called by His name, we should emulate Him. He realized his dependence upon the Father, and didn't merely take it for granted but expressed appreciation for all the Father provided. When Lazarus died, before Jesus raised him, He prayed, "Father, I thank You that You heard me." He gave thanks when He multiplied the loaves and fishes (Mark 8:6). And He gave thanks at the Lord's Supper (Matthew 26:27).

Psalm 100:4 says we should "enter His gates with thanksgiving and His courts with praise." So for us to come into God's presence and focus on ourselves is getting things backwards. Sure, there may be times of desperation when we need to seek God's favor, but our general approach when coming before the Lord of the universe should be to acknowledge all He is and all He provides. Once we do that, we'll be able to have a greater trust that He can and "will supply all your needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 4:19).

In the Old Testament, the Lord required thanksgiving sacrifices (Lev. 7:12, Psalm 107:22, Psalm 116:7, for example). Though we are no longer bound under the Law, our thanks-giving should show a sense of sacrifice. In a recent episode of Focus on the Family, James Dobson discussed how his wife's upbringing contributed to her not knowing how to show gratitude. At first he thought it was because she wasn't thankful, but he came to discover the real reason. Now, she goes out of her way to say thank you, to write notes of thanks, etc. We should not merely mumble "thanks" to those who give us things, and we should especially not take what we've been given for granted. Our thanks-giving should be given with a sense of sacrifice, to show we truly appreciate the gift(s).

In Richard Nelson Bolles' annual What Color is Your Parachute, he says that one major factor in whether a person gets a job is whether he sends thank-you notes to those at the company he met during the interview process. He says that this is largely a lost art, and those job hunters who actually take the time to write such a note stand out in the prospective employers' minds.

Just being inheritors of Christ's salvation ongoing presence should lead us to overflow with thankfulness (Colossians 2:7), just as our cup of blessing overflows (Psalm 23:5) from a God "who is able to do above and beyond all that we ask or think" (Eph. 3:20). So if we truly realize all we have been given, and how blessed we are to have it, we will find it hard not to express thanks.

Sure, it's easy to give thanks when things are good. But we are commanded to "give thanks in everything" (1 Thess. 5:18), just as we are commanded to "rejoice always" (v. 16; see also Phil. 4:4). Of course, this doesn't mean we should be thankful for the trials and tribulations we face. Jesus wept at Lazarus' death (John 11:35). But then He gave thanks, because He knew of the Father's power over death, and He knew that in the Father's overarching plan all would come out right in the end. Isn't it true that Christian funerals are generally more hope-filled than others? Sure, the loved one who has died is grieved and missed, but knowing that they are enjoying the Lord's presence in heaven helps the healing process.

Thankfulness also requires humility. In John 11:25-26, Jesus expresses gratitude and praise to the Father for revealing things to the simple while keeping them hidden from the "wise." The Pharisees and Saduccees prided themselves on possessing great wisdom, but Jesus berated them for their foolishness. No matter what He said, they were too proud to be grateful that Jesus was in their midst. They berated those who were too "simple" to understand their convoluted theology, but in the end they were the ones who ended up missing it.

Lack of humility is also seen in Luke 18:11, where "The Pharisee took his stand and was praying like this: 'God, I thank You that I'm not like other people—greedy, unrighteous, adulterers, or even like this tax collector." Of course, that tax collector of whom he was speaking had a more humble view of himself, not even lifting his head to heaven and realizing his sinfulness (v. 13). We know that "this one [the tax collector] went down to his house justified rather than the other; because everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, but the one who humbles himself will be exalted" (v. 14). Thanking God for what we do not possess, like moral superiority, or with wrong motives, is not pleasing to God and shows that we don't truly realize that all we have comes from Him. If I'm living a godly life, and somebody expresses appreciation for my example, I should give glory to the One who has enabled me to do so.

Finally, Romans 1 talks about those who embrace godlessness.

For though they knew God, they did not glorify Him as God or show gratitude.
Instead, their thinking became nonsense, and their senseless minds
were darkened.
22 Claiming to be wise, they became fools
23 and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images resembling mortal man,
birds, four-footed animals, and reptiles.

When we fail to realize and appreciate all God provides, we start believing we are the be all and end all of our existence, which is of course "nonsense" and "senseless," leading our minds to become "darkened." We think we are wise, but we are fools ("For to those who are perishing the message of the cross is foolishness" 1 Cor. 1:18), and we're deceived into worship idols

May you all have a truly thankful Thanksgiving, and may that attitude spread throughout the year.

All Bible quotations from the Holman Christian Standard Bible (HCSB)
Copyright © 1999, 2000, 2002, 2003 by Holman Bible Publishers, Nashville Tennessee. All rights reserved.

Tags: Thanksgiving

Honor your parents, but not like this!

2005-11-18T17:12:00.000-05:00

Short take: Russian mother and her sons accused of strangling and cannibalizing a man. She's in her late 30s, the sons are about 16 and 19. God help the family of the man whose body was desecrated, and God help this distorted mother and sons who committed this ghastly crime. What happened that would lead them to agree to do such a thing? Only God knows, and only He can turn their hearts to Him.

Tags: Rostov, Krasny Sulin

Honesty will pay this fine man

2005-11-18T17:05:00.000-05:00

If you found $350,000 dollars in diamonds in your taxi, would you have kept the money? Afghan immigrant Haider Sediqi didn't. I truly believe that whatever riches that money could have bought him, he'll be a far richer man for doing the right thing. Thank goodness he wasn't like the Mr. Potter in It's a Wonderful Life, who found the money lost by Uncle Billy and nearly ruined the Bailey Savings and Loan. Thank you for your honesty, Mr. Sediqi, and may the Lord bless you.

Tags: Haider Sediqi, It's a Wonderful Life

Quid pro quo? Or no go?

2005-11-18T13:00:00.000-05:00

I have noticed that bloggers often adopt a "you scratch my back, I'll scratch yours" or "I'll scratch your back, and expect you to scratch mine" policy when it comes to linking to other blogs. How about you? I'm thinking, link to me only if you like my blog, and I'll link to you only if I like your blog.

Or, if I link to a blog I don't particularly like or agree with, should I put a header like "Opposing Viewpoint"? I do know I will not link to a blog that is patently offensive. Anyway, let me know how you handle this. God bless.

No more "Heidi game" faith!

2005-11-17T15:27:00.000-05:00

Football fans may remember this as the day the movie Heidi intercepted the Jets-Raiders football game in 1968. The Jets were ahead, and then Heidi stepped in, based on the broadcasting standards of the times. What fans wouldn't find out until later is that the Raiders scored two touchdowns in 9 seconds, winning the game. Irate fans blew the switchboard, leading the networks to agree to broadcast the games until their conclusion.

Many times, we have a "Heidi game" faith. Like the networks on that fateful day, we hang on until our faith is "preempted" by a challenge we deem too great, and so we allow our hopes to fade away, forgetting that God is the expert at last-minute comebacks.

The disciples of Jesus tuned out at Gethsemane. Remember how they fled in fear? The show was over, as far as they were concerned. But Jesus turned the game around. And like the networks, which later agreed to hold on to the end, the disciples learned to hold on to Jesus in spite of attempts to preempt their hopes. May we also trust that, as Yogi Berra said, it's never over 'til it's over.

How firm a foundation

2005-11-17T15:12:00.000-05:00

On this date in 1777, the Articles of Confederation were submitted to the states for ratification. Of course, we all know that our nation's current governing document is the Constitution. The Articles were considered ineffective and had to be scrapped for a better system. One that would hold the states together more firmly while still allowing them to have a measure of authority.

But isn't this attitude true of many concerning the Bible? They find passages that don't meet their preferences, and so they try to rewrite what God said. And like the Articles, they splinter the body of Christ rather than uniting it. And it's not just about uniting the body with each other, but uniting our hearts with the Lord's.

The book of Revelation warns us about altering what's in Scripture. And Jesus said that not one pen stroke would disappear from the Law until everything in the Father's will was accomplished. May we treasure the beauty and authority of the word of God so that we form a mighty, cohesive army against His enemies.

Nature's Artwork By Doris Jennings

2005-11-17T13:14:00.000-05:00

Nature's Artwork By Doris Jennings

Some great pictures here. Enjoy.

FCC lax on indecency (but God's not)

2005-11-16T15:12:00.000-05:00

Seems the FCC levied nearly $8 million in fines last year, but 0 through September of this year, despite 189,000 complaints. New FCC chairman Kevin Martin was expected to up the enforcement activity, so I wonder what's going on. Perhaps this(?):

Mr. Martin, a Republican, has had difficulty achieving a majority among the four
sitting commissioners on some indecency complaints before the FCC, prompting
some aides to suggest he reduce the backlog by seeking fines or dismissals in a
more piecemeal fashion, rather than resolving a large number at once.

And this(?):

Two other commissioners, a Republican and a Democrat, generally favor more
modest actions, and their unease at handing out big fines and expanding the
FCC's definitions of unacceptable programming has slowed Mr. Martin's efforts.

Seems answers will not be quickly forthcoming:

Mr. Martin declined to be interviewed, addressing concerns about the slow pace
of indecency enforcement in a statement. "We are working very hard to address
the backlog of complaints before us, which is fairly substantial," he said. "In
clearing out this backlog, we are trying to act in a consistent and
comprehensive manner."

Seems some people are looking for guidance on what is and isn't indecent:

Mr. Martin wants to provide that guidance, aides say, so that networks and local
stations will know, for example, when it is acceptable to broadcast the f-word
.... "Broadcasters would like a little more clarity," says Dennis Wharton,
spokesman for the National Association of Broadcasters. "If we know what the
rules are, we'll play by the rules."

Or are they looking to see how far they can push the envelope?

As noted in the story, is it not indecent to use the F word in a movie like Saving Private Ryan, but indecent to do so in, say, an awards show?

There will always be debates as to what's indecent, and whether the government should be involved in such issues (or, to what extent it should be involved). I'm not clear on the grayer areas of this issue, but my first concern in what I watch, say, and portray to others is, "Would Jesus be offended by it?" We shouldn't have to wait until some government official tells us what is indecent. There will be more FCC heads in the coming years, with a variety of ideas about what is and isn't indecent. And with many people considering the Constitution to be a "living document," who's to say how far they'll attempt the push the envelope?

God willing, we Christians will focus more on being pure light in a dark world rather than allowing the shadows of perversion slip in.

Tags: FCC, Kevin Martin

Alarm Clock Tag

2005-11-16T14:30:00.000-05:00

Eric from Little Bit of This 'n That has tagged me with this alarm clock meme:

1) Do you use an alarm clock to wake up in the morning?
Yes, but thankfully I have my wife as a backup because I don't respond very well to it.

2) What time do you set it for?
Monday - Friday: About 6:15 AM; Sunday About 8:00 to 8:30 for church

3) Do you hit the snooze button? If so how many times?
No, I turn it off and hope and pray that I won't fall asleep again, or that my wife will wake me up.

4) Have you ever abused an alarm clock?
Only in my mind (is that still considered a sin?)

5) It's "time" to spread some "It's Blogcess" linky love.

Tag, You're It:

Anna's Blog has some great pictures.

Go to The Complimenting Commenter to receive an encouraging word.

God Even Loves Idiots Like Me shows us that we can be imperfect and still have fun as Christians.

Go to Eph2810 for some words on godly living.

Lair of the Penman waxes about God in poetic prose.

"Not my responsibility"

2005-11-15T16:40:00.000-05:00

Whether or not this story is legitimate, it is believable, including the employee saying, "It's not my responsibility." I have worked in places where certain employees look at the job description and follow it to the letter. I suppose there was nothing in this nurse's job description saying what she should do in case of ants crawling on a patient's face, but to leave the patient in such a state is ridiculous and cruel. The family had complained about the staff on other occasions as well.

Sadly, this is all too often the mantra of employees in various roles. Sure, if you don't have the ability to do the task, or if doing so would cause greater problems than not, or if you are just too busy, then fine. But if you are just being selfish or lazy, or wish to take advantage of others, then shame on you.

As Christians, we should go all out, setting the standards for excellence and contribution. After all, doesn't God overflow our cup of blessing (Psalm 23:5)? Doesn't he provide streams of living water (John 7:38). Isn't God abundantly good (Psalm 145:7), and gracious (Romans 5:17, 1 Timothy 1:14)? Didn't He go well beyond what most people would have done--offering his life for us while we were still sinners, enemies of God (Romans 5:7-8)?

Imagine if God only provided us the bare minimum! If He said, "Well, I paid for your sins. Isn't that enough?" No, we don't have to eat the scraps left behind by the pigs, as was the case in the story of the prodigal son (Luke 15:11-32). He offers us more of Himself than we can even ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20).

Now, imagine if Christians all over the world were known for offering more of God's heavenly treasures than people could ask or imagine. Imagine if they gave much more to worthy causes (we don't give much more now, if at all). Imagine if they regularly offered to help other people. There are indeed many who do, and God will bless them for it (though they most likely know it is more blessed to give than to receive [Acts 20:35], so they don't do it just to be blessed).

Lord, please forgive us for our laziness, selfishness, and stubbornness. Help us look to You as an example of one who gave of Himself abundantly, far beyond what we deserved. We thank You for all You have done, and may we one day be able to look back on our own lives and say we gave it our all, as You did. In Jesus' Name, Amen.

My commitment to God (past due)

2005-11-14T17:52:00.000-05:00

Just before the terrorist attacks on our nation, I made the following commitment to God. The attacks came, and this commitment was relegated to the background. But this past weekend, our church had a wonderful speaker who challenged us to take back our towns and cities for Christ. So here, for your perusal and my accountability, is that commitment:

Dear Lord,
Up to this time I have allowed You to be my Savior but not my Lord (except when it was convenient). You never promised an easy life. You never say being a believer will yield great riches, fame, etc. In fact, ignominy is the fate of many who believe in You. Yet in your eyes the heart dedicated to You is the most beautiful asset one has. I want to please You in all I am and in all I do. I want You to receive the glory. Whatever praise I may get for your work I owe to You. So at this time I lay myself on the altar, as it were, as a living sacrifice (Romans 12:1), for I know that my life is more an example of worship than is merely my singing songs of praise on Sundays. You have the reins now. I will go wherever You call. All I ask is that you help me understand that it is You who is calling me to go, and that I would be given whatever I need to go and do all You ask. I am fully aware of what I have written here and with no further delay, with no hesitation, with no excuses I now accept that my body is God's temple (1 Corinthians 6:19) and has been purchased by the wonderful and terrible sacrifice of Jesus. Thank You that I saw my need to do this, and that I am able to do this. Please help me remember this commitment to You whenever the opposing forces call. In Jesus' matchless name, Amen.
September 9, 2001

If I Were a Soldier

2005-11-11T14:30:00.000-05:00

I found this great poem (by a 9-year old Austin Davis). Click the header to read it--you'll need to scroll about halfway down the page. You'd think Austin had been in the thick of battle. Thanks to Jon for posting it.

Thank you, veterans!

2005-11-11T00:38:00.000-05:00

Today we celebrate those military veterans who have served are are serving our great country. Whether you were in a war or served during peacetime, whether you were in battle or in the mess hall, whether you were in for 1 year or 30 years, you have helped make our military the best in the world. Each one of you is important; if you don't do your job the best you can it affects everybody. I don't care whether you're a General leading a large battalion, or a Seaman Recruit swabbing the deck--if you go about your job with excellence it will benefit those around you and, ultimately, our country.

I served 4 years in the Navy on the USS Carl Vinson (CVN-70) during peace time. It was towards the end of the Cold War, so tensions were still fairly high, but of course not like our military is facing today in places like Iraq. Still, I'm honored to have added my small contribution.

Finally, a special thanks to those who are continuing to put their lives on the line. Where would we be without such brave souls? You are going after a ruthless and evil enemy, whose continued presence and expansion would one day lead to our destruction. But you are taking them down, slowly but surely. Even more, you are helping to rebuild hope in a nation torn by fear for decades. It is because of you that people can actually vote for the candidate they want, and not be forced to vote for Saddam. It is because of you that smiles are coming back to men, women, and children in that country. People who don't follow the gloom and doom attitude of many news agencies know that you are making progress in Iraq, that those soldiers who are acting shamefully are few and far between. So please don't lose heart. Just keep doing the right thing, and you will be vindicated.

A prayer: Dear Lord, please bless these men and women in all branches and facets of the military, who have served us past and present. Grant them and their loved ones the peace of mind that they are doing a good thing. Show them wisdom, and shower them with your gracious love. We are honored to have such wonderful people; may we honor them by making this the best country we can. In Jesus' name, Amen.

Veterans Day, Iraq, military, success, destiny

Some great (and not so great) Nov. 10 moments

2005-11-10T16:35:00.000-05:00

1483: Martin Luther, whose 95 theses led the way to the formation of Protestantism, was born. In an era when Roman Catholicism was law, and speaking against it was considered a heresy punishable by death, Martin's bravery in standing up for the true Christ, the Christ of grace and mercy, not of indulgences and works, has inspired many for generations. I strongly recommend the 2003 movie, Luther, starring Joseph Fiennes.

1775: Let's give a rousing round of applause for the United States Marine Corps, who celebrate their 230th anniversary today. These brave and patriotic people have defended us against the worst of enemies, and I know they will continue to do so. God bless you all!

1871: Henry Stanley locates medical missionary Dr. David Livingstone in Tanzania with the famous words, "Dr. Livingstone, I presume?" Thank God for Dr. Livingstone, who helped bring light into the "dark continent" of Africa, a man of whom Florence Nightingale said, "God has taken away the greatest man of his generation." But the humble Livingstone would not have spoken so highly of himself: "I am a missionary, heart and soul. God had an only Son, and He was a missionary and a physician. A poor, poor imitation of Him I am, or wish to be. In this service I hope to live; in it I wish to die."

1926: Michinomiya Hirohito is crowned emporer of Japan. This man would achieve god-like status in the minds of his countrymen, but his loss in World War II led him to declaring to his nation that he was not immortal (of course, his death in 1989 confirmed that!).

1938: Kate Smith sings "God Bless America" for the first time. This would become her signature song, and for decades after the patriotic among us would belt it out at memorable events.

1975: The freighter SS Edmund Fitzgerald sinks in Lake Superior during a storm. 29 men died. The tragedy was immortalized in a 1976 Gordon Lightfoot song, "The Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald."

1982: The Vietnam Veterans Memorial opened in Washington, DC, providing some solace to the tens of thousands of heroic soldiers and their families who had borne the shameful treatment during and after that war. In 1984, also on this date, the US Postal Service issued a commemorative stamp of this memorial. Sadly, many soldiers in our current war against terrorism have also received poor treatment not only from certain citizens but also from many in the media. Men and women of our military, we salute and honor you, and we will not allow the indiscretions of a small minority in your midst to belittle all the good you have done. You fight so we may have the right to continue our freedom of speech, a freedom we might no longer have if Communism or extreme Islam were to overtake us. One day, we'll also build a memorial to the many who fought and died against terrorism.

1997: Au pair Louise Woodward was convicted of 2nd-degree murder in the shaking death of Matthew Eappen. Originally sentenced to life in prison, she ended up being sentenced to time served (279 days), upon appeal, and was freed.

Martin Luther, United States Marine Corps, USMC, Marines, David Livingstone, Hirohito, Kate Smith, God Bless America, Edmund Fitzgerald, Vietnam Veterans Memorial, war on terror, Louise Woodward

In the blink of an eye

2005-11-09T11:03:00.000-05:00

This morning, God got my attention with this MercyMe song. Out of the blue I started singing it in the car, and then I changed the radio station and there it was! I love how He does that! It makes me think He's trying to tell me something.

The song seems to be about how we should ask ourselves whether or not we are so wrapped up in ourselves and the world around us that we aren't doing all we can for God's kingdom. He has sent here on a mission, but compared to our time in heaven, our time on earth is short and will be gone before we know it. But our legacy, good or bad, will live on in our children and the generations to follow.

I know I don't always make the best of my time. I too often live reactively rather than proactively. Doing the important things, in God's eyes, is a matter of whenever I "feel the Spirit lead me." My history has shown me that I need to schedule times of prayer and Bible reading and other methods of Christian growth or else the things of the world will crowd them out.

And at times I am more concerned how others will see me rather than how God sees me. I'll be with God for eternity, but before I know it the people I'm trying to please will be long gone. And as we all know, there's no way to please everybody, and no matter who we try to please, we should wonder whether they really have our best interests in mind.

Lord, may we truly realize that compared to eternity, we are only here for a blink of an eye. Please forgive us for seeking the things of this world, for forgetting so often that it is far better and far more rewarding to honor You even when some people world disagree. And help us to live in such a way that who we are and what we do during our short span on this earth will leave others blessed for years to come until the day their joy and hope are fulfilled in You. We thank you for the privilege of being your ministers, for being used by you for eternal purposes. May we love and honor You this very moment and each moment to come. In Jesus' name, Amen.

MercyMe, In the Blink of an Eye, Christ, success, destiny

God even loves idiots like me: Would you sell your soul?

2005-11-08T12:27:00.000-05:00

This is sad. Please know that Jesus values your soul very much. He paid for it with His life.

God even loves idiots like me: Would you sell your soul?

Are you voting for the fearful or the fearless?

2005-11-08T11:00:00.000-05:00

Today is election day, where all too many candidates will run away from their convictions and stick their finger into the wind to see which way is most popular. Success to them will mean winning the seat rather than doing the right thing.

And this coming Sunday is the International Day of Prayer for the Persecuted Church, where we commemorate the millions of believers who are being oppressed and even murdered because they hold firm to their convictions. They know their destiny is secure, so they consider earthly gains to be rubbish in light of the surpassing glory in Christ.

What a contrast. What a shameful picture of how our nation's leadership has fallen so far from its roots. Think of how brave and firm in their beliefs were the Founders, who risked their very lives to form this nation.

And not only did these brave people "campaign" for the right things, they carried them out despite what others thought was the popular decision. Like those persecuted Christians all over the world who know that by standing up for Christ, they might suffer but His light will shine forth brighter than ever because of their faithfulness and courage.

Maybe there is nobody on your ballot that has similar convictions. Please pray that God will give you the wisdom to make the right choice. Sometimes we need to vote for incremental improvements, the person who is not ideal but who is at least somewhat better than the other candidate.

Many of the candidates we don't want in office will be elected because people will choose to not vote. So please do. And please pray continually for the wimpy and misguided politicians of today and tomorrow, that they will develop a heart for God and right living, and the courage to back that up, so that we can speak proudly of our leadership.

election, Election Day, International Day of Prayer for the Persecuted Church, persecution, success, destiny

Today in history, and the importance of your vote

2005-11-07T17:20:00.000-05:00

November 7 has been a day to remember for its contribution to the memory of good and evil in government and elsewhere. May we learn from its lessons.

In 1793, the French Revolution had been going on for 4 years. Just a decade or so after the American Revolution, fought largely because the British monarchy held a tyrannical hand against religious freedom in the colonies, the French did the opposite and fought for a godless state, culminating on this date as Christianity was abolished, and secularism was "deified." In the next several years thousands of churches were destroyed and many priests were murdered.

In 1900, Heinrich Himmler, who was Adolf Hitler's head of the Nazi SS and the Gestapo, leading organizer of the Holocaust, and founder and officer-in-charge of the concentration camps and death squads, was born on this date. He willingly played a key role in the murder of millions of innocent people.

The 1900s would show the evils of dictatorship on a never before seen scale. November 7 dates alone show some of what was to come. In 1917, the October Revolution brought Vladimir Lenin and communism to the forefront. Lenin partnered with Leon Trotsky, who was born on this date in 1879, in bringing this to pass. The scourge of communism would lead to the deaths of tens of millions and the oppression of hundreds of millions under such names as Stalin, Mao Zedong, Fidel Castro, and Kim Jong Il.

On this date in 1921, Benito Mussolino declared himself to be leader of the National Fascist Party in Italy. Of course he would later team up with Hitler, who temporarily joined with the Russians before turning against them.

Thankfully, we also remember November 7 for moral and brave people and events. Evangelist Billy Graham was born in 1918, and from the 1940s through today God has used his ministry to bring millions of people to the Lord. His legacy continues through his son Franklin Graham, who preaches at many evangelical crusades.

In 1916, women finally made a significant step in government as Jeannette Rankin was the first congresswoman elected.

I'll close with a couple of lesser known but nonetheless significant events on this date. In 1876, Albert H. Hook patented the cigarette manufacturing machine, unknowingly (I imagine) making it possible to greatly increase the number of people who would become hooked (pun intended) and fall gravely ill.

And then there's journalist, editor, and ordained minister Elijah Lovejoy, who was, appropriately enough, born the same year as Abraham Lincoln--1809. But he would be murdered about 28 years earlier, on this date in 1837, because his abolitionist newspaper, the Alton Observer, was offensive to the racists of the day. This courageous man, flying in the face of pervasive bigotry, was an inspiration to those who would follow.

Tomorrow is election day. For most states, no major races are being run, so the numbers of people going to the polls will be pitifully small. Please, don't stay home. Vote. Every politician starts somewhere, and if you can make a positive change in the "lesser" elections now, that will one day carry forward to the day when some of those people become big names in government. History is full of examples of evil triumphing as the result of good people doing nothing. Do something. Pray, vote, and play your own role in making the history of the future better than ever.

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A prayer of praise and gratefulness

2005-11-04T17:10:00.000-05:00

Dear Lord,

I have seen days go by with little thought of the wonderful blessings you give us, the mercy you show despite our hearts being bent on evil, and the warm and uplifing fellowship of your presence. May I continually remember that you are here with me this very moment. I too often take for granted the salvation you offered at such a great cost, which not only snatches us from the fires of hell but carries us to your glorious dwelling. Please help me get a glimpse of heaven every now and then so I can exult in its awesome beauty.

Thank you for the promise of your Holy Spirit that enables us to live in victory amid the trials and temptations life hurls at us. Thank you for your commandments, which we can see as promises because we don't have to steal or kill or worship false idols with your Spirit guiding us.

How wonderful it is to be your adopted child; may I learn from your Father heart how to be a better parent to my children. May I see the deep beauty of my wife, and love her as the queen that she is.

How I long to more fully grasp all the riches you pour forth from your storehouse, not necessarily riches of gold or silver but riches of peace, joy, hope, love, patience, etc. How I long to behold your face so the things of this world grow strangely dim, and the light of your glory shines through me to bless others. It is indeed far better to serve as a doorkeeper in your dwelling than to be a king on the earth.

Finally, I thank you for the everyday things we often don't even associate you with, but which indeed come from your hand. There is no thing we should consider too small for you to care about, and no thing too big for you to handle. Without you all that seems good is actually pale, and all that seems pale is wonderful if you are in its midst.

If in my smallness and weakness you can use me to further your kingdom, I'll be deeply honored. Thank you for all you are, all you give, and all you will do, because it is very good.

In Jesus' majestic and loving name, Amen.

Mixed up highway ramps reflecting life

2005-11-03T16:22:00.000-05:00

Have you ever dealt with poorly designed highway onramps and offramps? In particular, the ones that have the offramp after the onramp, so you're fighting the oncoming cars for that lane as you try to exit and they try to enter the highway? Or vice-versa. Some time back I wrote the government asking about this, and they said they hadn't foreseen the traffic being as voluminous as it now is.

I too often mix up my priorities because despite the history of my life, I fail to foresee that my days will be more busy than I expected. And like the lost time resulting from dings and fender-benders from cars jockeying for position at those mixed up highway ramps, I tend to lose (forget) important responsibilities because my mind is filled with competing responsibilities.

Like recently, when I lost my debit card. I was probably thinking about what I was going to do next, and not being "in the moment" so I could be sure I had everything in place. I probably had too much "traffic" on my schedule and was rushing to keep up. In short, I was caught in the middle, like those cars in that lane trying to enter and exit, and didn't know whether I was coming or going.

I suppose we shouldn't blame the highway designers for failing to foresee such a high amount of traffic. But for those of us who are Christians, we have access to the Lord, who can guide us in planning our days so we don't become overloaded and accident prone. My wife and I were praying recently, and she was convinced that it was when we don't seek God that our days are all out of whack. Martin Luther once said that he didn't have time not to pray for 3 hours a day. Well, maybe 3 hours is too much for most of us, but perhaps if we remember to seek God for even several minutes out of the day, we'll be riding smoothly on the road of life (sorry, just had to toss that in there!).

Dear Lord, please help us to always put You first. Give us wisdom to plan our days according to your will, so we don't crowd out and forget the true priorities. We thank You for always giving us the time we need to do the things You call us to. In Jesus' name, Amen.

So much more than a bowl of candy

2005-11-01T13:13:00.000-05:00

Our son "cleaned up," as it were, for Halloween. He was going to go to a party with friends, but that didn't materialize, so he went around town looking for people to give out candy. And he came home with a 13 pound sack of it! He poured it out and we sorted through and counted. Nearly 300 pieces! He told us he wanted to eat it in a week, but we kinda figured that 40 pieces a day was a bit much.

When we were children, we would look at a big pile of candy and think, "It doesn't get any better than this!" Of course, we grow older, and that comment is reserved for nice cars, nice houses, and nice vacations. Yet the Lord has more than we can even ask or think in store for us (see Ephesians 3:20). He says in Isaiah 55:2, "Why do you spend money on what is not food, and your wages on what does not satisfy? Listen carefully to Me, and eat what is good, and you will enjoy the choicest of foods" (HCSB). Now that doesn't mean that enjoying candy or even something more than that is not good. But if that's what excites us most, we are missing out on so much. C. S. Lewis said it so well in his sermon, "The Weight of Glory":

It would seem that our Lord finds our desires, not too strong, but too weak. We
are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when
infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud
pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday
at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.

So what is it about the things of earth that captivate us and take our minds from the riches, the overflowing? Satan wants us to focus on those things. "What if there's no God"? he tempts. "This fruit will give you all you could possibly need and want." And so we get the candy, the car, the house, the vacation, and think we're doing well. But we fall so far short.

At times, our perceptions are totally backwards. I received an e-mail about an article in the Barnabas Fund about 3 Christian girls who were beheaded, and one who was seriously injured. One of the heads was found outside a church, leading police to suspect a religious motive. Possibly Islamic militants committed the murders.

These girls must have known the danger they placed themselves in by proclaiming their Christianity. Maybe they had some candy in their lives, but I would imagine that thoughts of expensive cars and houses and jewelry were beyond possibility in their eyes. The murderers perhaps thought they were earning favor with the false god Allah, and keeping the girls from any hope of reward. How I wish they could see the richest of fare (Isaiah 55:2) these girls are now enjoying. They are at the Lord's table rejoicing in His presence and tasting of His goodness. Those poor fools who murdered them are like the Laodicean church. The Lord scolded them for thinking they had all they needed. In Revelation 3:17, He says:

For you say, I am rich, I have prospered, and I need nothing, not realizing that
you are wretched, pitiable, poor, blind, and naked (ESV).

Remember, God looks at the heart (1 Samuel 16:7). Whatever the murderers and their victims had possessed in riches or lack thereof, God blessed or cursed them according to how they saw Him. The girls saw (I should say "see") Him as Lord and Savior, and He has showered them with unspeakable joy and love. I pray the murderers will one day turn to Jesus, but if they keep thinking that their current path is going to lead them to glory, they are very mistaken. They will acquire more and more riches and glory according to their perverted beliefs, but in God's eyes will be "wretched, pitiable, poor, blind, and naked."

OK, I'll admit it. If my stepson allows me to I'll have a couple pieces of candy tonight. But God willing, I'll see at as a small example of how God so richly pours down His blessings upon us.

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How I'm doing, and what I need to do

2005-10-31T16:52:00.000-05:00

As we move into November, did you remember to "fall back" an hour on your clock? Too bad there aren't more 25 hour days. But as the saying goes, work expands to fill the allotted time. So maybe I'll need to stop hoping and take advantage of what time I do actually have.

It's so (too) easy for me to have a plan for things I want to do during the month that will lead me closer to the mission and vision I believe God has for my family and me, but not take the actions necessary. Or, at times I find myself doing the easier things but postponing the more difficult things just one more day, and then when that day comes just one more day. So by the time I get to the end of the month I have still not gotten to certain things I planned to do in the beginning of that month.

For example, I kept planning to call or e-mail the men in our couples fellowship group, which my wife and I lead. Thankfully I did have a chance to spend some time with them at an outing we went to earlier in the month, and then at our group meeting. But I need to take the steps necessary to further our relationships. I have read books and magazine articles on improving relationships, but I need to take better practical actions. This month I did do well in reaching out to my brother and son to seek time with them.

OK, I'll do a quick rundown by major role of the positives and negatives, and how I can best improve. Please know that I don't want to make this look like I'm works-minded. For me (and I believe this is in line with biblical thinking), it's not about crossing off items on my to-do list, but doing the necessary things, from the heart and in honor of God, that will lead me and my family to the place God would have us be.

Faith: At times God comes across too small to me because I don't spend adequate time in worship to behold Him as He truly is. I don't continually "practice (and enjoy and adore) his presence" like Brother Lawrence might say. And I don't spend enough times of deep prayer, petitioning the Lord for the needs of others, thanking God for all He gives, and confessing and repenting of those sins I have allowed to lead me astray. So my sense of the world becomes distorted in its importance. Zig Ziglar once said that how we start our day will set the tone. If I'm going to start by listening to news on the radio (so much of which is negative), I'll more likely have a negative mindset. I need to focus more on God, so that when I do find out all the bad things in the world for that day, I'll be more ready to see them in proper perspective to God's might and love. On the other side of the coin, I have spent some good time in prayer with my wife, and I have listened to my Bible on tape several days each week. And I think I have gotten better at spending time in the mornings focusing on Him.

Fitness: I've only exercised a couple of times this month (though if you add those times I did some physical work as "exercise," that ups the amount somewhat--does that count? Please?). Again, as noted above, this was one of those things I kept pushing back to endless tomorrows. How guilty I feel whenever my wife talks about her workout! I say how proud of her I am, and am thankful she isn't on my case for my endless "commitment" to get started. Emotionally, I feel a need to write how I'm doing in a journal more regularly. So often I can see in hindsight how my busyness is my unconscious(?) way of avoiding those troubling feelings. I do feel I'm doing better with anger, not allowing my temper to erupt as much, and catching it more quickly when it does. I also feel I'm eating somewhat better. For example, my body reacts quite severely to caffeine. If I go without for even a day, I get headaches and upset stomach. Not that I have a lot of caffeine, but even the little I have is enough to cause me to feel miserable if I go without. So I'm slowly weaning myself from it.

Family: I think I did quite well with this, though there is room for improvement. I feel so much closer to my wife than ever, and I'm slowly but surely growing closer to my stepson. He's so good at bringing me into his conversations; I so often stumble when trying to relate to him. I'm thrilled when I do find a way to spend time with him, and I appreciate so much when he confides in me. I think I do fairly well keeping in touch with my mother and sister, who are out of state, but not so well with my father, who is only about an hour away. As mentioned above, I'm doing OK with my brother. As for the adoption, we made significant progress this week. God willing we'll have the bulk of the paperwork finished by year's end. I also should spend more time reading about China, since that's where she's from.

Friends: As mentioned above, I have had mixed success in reaching out to our fellowship group. Likewise, with some other friends (who I mostly talk with over the phone or by e-mail), I haven't invested as fully in those relationships as I could. Which is to my loss, since these people have been such a blessing to me. I have done some reading on relationships, but need to take steps to truly develop them

Favor (charitable giving and ministry): I think I'm doing pretty well here. I'm involved in a few different ministries, and feel I'm making an impact. My wife is such a wonderful partner in our leadership of the fellowship group. No way I could carry it off without her. I try to come up with a good lesson plan, but she takes ownership of so many other aspects, such as icebreakers, keeping track of who's bringing what food, reminding the members of the next meeting, setting up the dates for the meetings, and coordinating special outings. She also prepares wonderful meals each time we go to the group meetings. If I was unable to attend, I have no doubt the meeting would go quite well. If all that was up to me, chaos would likely ensue! In my lesson preparations for the group, as well as for when I speak to the youth at a detention center I visit, I should spend more time going over my questions and comments (but I don't want to rehearse too much to the point it becomes stilted). And I think I'm doing a tiny bit better operating the camera at church.

Finances: I finally cleaned my car. OK, so it's gotten a bit messy since then, but not too bad. As for organizing some of my personal files, I did make some progress, but that's one area I definitely struggle. I have also gotten a little better grasp of our financial situation. My wife does so well with that, since she doesn't go to the office every day, but I need to at least get a better overview of what's going on. She does keep me informed, but it helps me to see it in front of me.

Firm (career and education): I finally got off my duff and spent some time organizing key points in my resume, which I hadn't done much of in ages. I also did some reading on getting an effective resume together (which I can now see that mine definitely needed some improvement). Since we are planning to move to Texas some time next year once we get our little girl, I feel quite nervous about how to best approach potential employers in our new location, but know that if I just do my best, the Lord will be there to lead us where we need to go.

This month was perhaps the closest I've looked at and evaluated my schedule in a while. Though quite time consuming, it feels good to have a grasp on how I'm really doing. Of course I need God's help to get a truly sound understanding of where I am and what I need to do from here on, and I do seek that. I also have realized that I put too much on my "plate" this month; that's been my pattern, I guess the result of trying to move ahead more quickly than I'm able. I need to face that I am where I am, and trying to do too much will only lead to frustration.

As always, your prayers and encouragement are welcome and needed. And if you are struggling in moving your life forward, please write and I'll gladly pray for and encourage you. Remember, success is not perfection, but progress. It's doing the best we can with what we've got, and when we do fail at times, getting up and learning from our mistakes. May the Lord give us wisdom as we move into November.

Unquenchable Songs and Endless Praise

2005-10-28T11:42:00.000-04:00

Great song at the top of the page.

A duty to protect and cherish

2005-10-26T17:35:00.000-04:00

Albert Mohler's commentary of October 18 is stunning and sickening. Imagine:

Medical researchers estimate that 80 percent or more of babies now
prenatally diagnosed with Down syndrome are aborted. (They estimate that since
1989, 70 percent of Down syndrome fetuses have been aborted.) A high percentage
of fetuses with cystic fibrosis are aborted, as evident in Kaiser Permanente's
admission to The New York Times that 95 percent of its patients in Northern
California choose abortion after they find out through prenatal screening that
their fetus will have the disease.

writes George Neumayr. George Will, father of a Down syndrome child, Jon, seems to concur. Says Patricia E. Bauer, mother of Margaret, who also has Down syndrome:

To them, Margaret falls into the category of avoidable human suffering. At best,
a tragic mistake. At worst, a living embodiment of the pro-life movement. Less
than human. A drain on society. That someone I love is regarded this way is
unspeakably painful to me (emphasis mine).

And she adds this chilling postscript:

Margaret's old pediatrician tells me that years ago he used to have a steady
stream of patients with Down syndrome. Not anymore. Where did they go, I
wonder. On the west side of L.A., they aren't being born anymore, he says.

Jesus spoke about those we now consider expendable. In Matthew 25:44-45, He says,

Then they also will answer, saying, 'Lord, when did we see you hungry or thirsty
or a stranger or naked or sick or in prison, and did not minister to you?'
Then he will answer them, saying, 'Truly, I say to you, as you did not do it
to one of the least of these, you did not do it to me.'

This has always been Gods heart. Proverbs 14:31 says,

Whoever oppresses a poor man insults his Maker, but he who is
generous to the needy honors him.

And don't forget who bears the ultimate pain:

And he [Paul] said, "Who are you, Lord?" And he said, "I am Jesus, whom you are
persecuting. (Acts 9:5)

May the Lord have mercy on us for this shameful slaughter of these precious children.

All great achievements take time

2005-10-25T12:47:00.000-04:00

I think this post complements my "history" post. And, of course, it stands on its own as a reminder that not everything fits with our microwave, instant-on mindset.

A hero thanked

2005-10-25T12:10:00.000-04:00

Blogger Joe B. from God Even Loves Idiots Like Me has a heartwarming story about a heroic rescue and a beautiful thank you. May you be blessed by it.

History remembered; history to be

2005-10-25T11:48:00.000-04:00

Nearly 50 years ago, on December 1, 1955, civil rights icon Rosa Parks refused to move from her seat near the front of a bus. That courageous action was a defining moment in the civil rights movement, and galvanized such men as Martin Luther King to inspire major changes in how our nation treats African Americans. Sadly, Mrs. Parks died yesterday in her sleep. She was 92.

She taught us all that little people can accomplish big things, if only we have the courage to step forth and take on the status quo. Whether it's standing in front of an abortion clinic protesting peacefully, or refusing to go along with friends to a strip club, we can all change history--even if only for a few people around us. Our focus shouldn't necessarily be on changing the world. Let's just do whatever we should when we should, and it will add up. Of course, if we have a chance to get the message out to a larger audience, fine. But how we live each moment will change more hearts than waiting for the "perfect" opportunity.

Some say that the bus event had been planned, while others believe it was spontaneous. Either way, she did something forbidden by law but honorable, I believe, in God's eyes, and was arrested as a result. It would be years, however, before blacks were able to gain equal rights, a key piece of legislation being the Civil Rights Act of 1964. And like many other "wars," the war against racism got worse before it got better, as seen in the violently racist Bull Connor, who as Public Safety Commissioner of Birmingham in the 1960s became infamous for using fire hoses and police dogs against non-violent protesters.

Which leads me to the second part of my post. The Iraqi constitution has been approved by nearly 80% of the voters. This is a mere 2.5 years after our allies joined our heroic military forces in ousting the Saddam Hussein regime. Let us not forget that the US revolution against the British tyranny started in 1775, and the Constitution wasn't approved until 1787, 12 years later. If our efforts had been slowed then amid cries of "quagmire," or if the Civil Rights movement had stopped because people thought it was just taking too long, where would we be? I can't be sure what will come in the future for Iraq. Our nation's future was uncertain for many years, so I think we need to wait before we pass judgment on the success or failure of this venture in the Middle East.

History. It's made by people who, for better or worse, take action. We will remember the infamous like Saddam Hussein and Bull Connor every bit as much as we remember the heroes like Rosa Parks and the Iraqi voters. We are each a part of history. May we do our part to make it worth remembering rather than just being swept along by the tide of events around us.

(Picture of Rosa Parks from picturehistory.com. Picture of Iraqi voter from AP)

Technorati tags: history, Rosa Parks, civil rights, 1955, African Americans, racism, Iraq, constitution, success, destiny

Who is more successful?

2005-10-24T16:52:00.000-04:00

It seems Anne Rice, whose name became synonymous with vampire novels over the years, has become a Christian. According to this MSNBC story, she intends to write only for the Lord. I see Technorati is tracking well over 100 blog posts on this, and I'm sure without even looking that opinions on her conversion will range from "it's not true" to "yes it is"; from "oh no, she was my favorite writer" to "thank the Lord, now I can feel good about reading her books." This is her new book. I haven't read it, and I don't know enough about Anne Rice's conversion to be sure of its authenticity, so don't think I'm plugging anything just yet. I do wish to say that God certainly could change Anne's heart, as he has changed anybody else's.
(Photo from Amazon.com)

Meanwhile, young teen singers Lamb and Lynx Gaede, of the group Prussian Blue, have been duped into believing the white race is supreme. Their father employs the Nazi swastika on his belt buckle and the side of his truck, and one of their songs, "Sacrifice," praises Nazi Rudolf Hess, Hitler's deputy Fuhrer, as a man of peace. In one picture, the girls can be seen wearing t-shirts with caricatures of a smiling Adolf Hitler.
(not sure of the source of this photo)

I don't know the level of Prussian Blue's success. I do know that Anne Rice was very successful as a novelist of the vampire genre. As Anne says in the above story:

"For the last six months," she says, "people have been sending e-mails saying,
'What are you doing next?' And I've told them, 'You may not want what I'm doing
next.'"

Is Anne risking her sales for a greater profit--Christ? And are Lamb and Lynx risking their souls for the profit of money and the support of racists? From the quick scans I've done of news and blogs on these ladies, I'd say Anne Rice will be far more successful in God's eyes. But the young Gaede girls can still turn to the One, Jesus, who created all of us in His image and for His glory.

Technorati tags: Anne Rice, Christ the Lord, vampire, Christ, salvation, Prussian Blue, Gaede, racism

Battle for points or hearts?

2005-10-21T01:03:00.000-04:00

So far I have been totally unsuccessful at Battle of the Blogs on Blog Explosion. (For those not familiar to the game, blogs go against each other, and whichever is voted the best after 15 votes cast is considered the winner). I'm currently ranked 1876 out of 1944, and have not won any of my 16 battles. So far the most losses without a win is 31, and the worst record is 142 and 582--for a score of -297.

Now I must admit I would prefer to win, at least once in a while. But despite my record, I don't intend to stop. Apparently others feel the same way. So why continue? Is failing a good thing?

Well, each time I battle, I know I'll get 15 people to look at my blog (though for probably no more than several seconds at a time, since the game doesn't allow for long perusals). Does that mean that popularity is big on my list? I won't lie; I like to be liked. But what's more important to me is that the messages I believe God is giving me are being read and are touching people.

Is that a cop out? You can see it anyway you like. Yes, I wish I had better blogging skills. I wish I could write better, understand html codes (or whatever they're called) better, get more comments, and so on. I know that there are plenty of people who are much better in many ways than me. And I believe that God would have me keep growing in my ability to serve him. I think I'm doing that. I have learned a lot about websites (this is my first, and it started this past July) and blogging since I started.

I'll continue to grow in knowledge and ability. But I don't think that God would have me wait on the sidelines until I'm one of the top bloggers before I tell what's on my heart. Think of it. How many of us in some form of ministry don't directly impact the number of people that our pastors do? And should a pastor of a small church stop preaching because he doesn't reach tens of thousands of people each week?

In some nations, Christians are outnumbered big time by those who hate and persecute Christians. But they keep plugging away, touching and, by God's grace, changing hearts wherever they can. Maybe it's one or two at a time. Maybe they are babies in Christ, and can't present the salvation message with the same expertise as a more mature believer. But if they know God, they know that He can multiply what we have based on our heart, not merely our ability. Likewise, those of us who lack in ability will have our influence multiplied by God's grace, if honoring and glorifying Him is truly our motive.

In a recent message I gave to some youth in a detention center, I discussed biblical success. I told them that success that comes from a heart devoted to God and His ways is, in God's eys, more truly successful than "success" that comes from a heart opposed to God and His ways. So, I believe that blogs and websites and books and songs that glorify evil and that have thousands and millions of readers and listeners are not as truly successful as those same media that only reach a small percentage of that amount of people but that do glorify God.

So please, if you are like me--doing your best to glorify and honor the Lord but not gaining the readership and popularity you desire, don't fret. Keep your heart in the right place. Yes, keep growing in your abilities, but don't let that take the place of growing in spiritual maturity. And for those of you that have gained large numbers of followers but who are promoting (whether explicitly or implicitly) messages that would offend God, I pray that God helps you see what true success is.

Technorati tags: blogs, blogging, Blog Explosion, Battle of the Blogs, Bible, God, Jesus Christ, destiny, success

Who will alter our minds?

2005-10-20T11:25:00.000-04:00

It seems some Chinese authorities are giving mind-altering drugs to Christian leaders so that the leaders are led to betray fellow believers. Of course the authorities deny this is taking place.

Time will tell. But sadly, Christian minds have be altered negatively without drugs. How? Largely by drinking in the hours of public education, television, and advertisements spewed out by our culture.

The Amplified Bible says in 1 Corinthians 2:16, "For who has known or understood the mind (the counsels and purposes) of the Lord so as to guide and instruct Him and give Him knowledge? But we have the mind of Christ (the Messiah) and do hold the thoughts (feelings and purposes) of His heart."

Our minds will be altered, whether by negative or positive influences. I'm not trying to say that all TV, public schools, etc., are bad, but we need to beware of what we're taking in. It's so easy to just sit in front of the TV and veg, or listen to music we might not even know the words to. Our minds are incredible; they take in and process far more than we realize. Rather than being passive, let us learn from the words of Proverbs 15:14: "The mind of the intelligent seeks knowledge, But the mouth of fools feeds on folly" (NASB; cf Proverbs 18:15). Yes, we need to seek out truth, or else we'll be fed, and digest, whatever we happen to come across. That will bring life, but seeking to please our flesh will bring death (see Romans 8:6).

Just as we "must be born again" (John 3:7), our minds must be renewed (Romans 12:2, Ephesians 4:23) by the Holy Spirit (Titus 3:5), whom receive through salvation in Christ (Titus 3:6). We must "put on the new self" which is in God's likeness (Eph. 4:24). Let us ask God to test our minds and hearts (Psalm 26:2), and may we not be found wanting (Daniel 5:27). Only by loving the Lord with all our being (Mark 12:30), including our minds, can we hope to see the worldly influences fade into smallness.

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Technorati tags: God, Jesus, Christ, salvation, China, Chinese, Chinese government, Bible, drugs, success, destiny

Best news?

2005-10-19T16:15:00.000-04:00

Question of the Day has good questions for today (October 19): What is the best news you've ever received? How about the best news you've ever given someone? Take some time to reflect on your answer, then go and answer. Doing so may brighten your day.

Steve Chandler, in his book 101 Ways to Motivate Yourself, says that we should not merely watch the news, but we should make news. What can we do today that will be newsworthy (well, at least to those who really matter to us)? Too often we merely exist, rather than making a difference. Now I don't think we should do a noteworthy thing mainly to get noticed. The noteworthiness should be a by-product of our desire to "live deep and suck out all the marrow of life" (Thoreau). If we haven't done something that really matters for quite a while, we're merely taking up space.

Technorati tags: question, question of the day, inspiration, motivation, news, Steve Chandler, 101 Ways to Motivate Yourself, Thoreau, success, destiny

Vote for the lesser of two evils, or not at all?

2005-10-18T17:50:00.000-04:00

In just a few weeks, many voters will go to the polls. For some of them, the choices will be frustrating. I tend toward conservative (social and economic), and in one race there seems to be little difference between the candidates. Both support abortion (perhaps one slightly more than the other). Both are not strong supporters of traditional marriage, and have said that they will support benefits for civil unions. I think the one is somewhat more conservative fiscally. But I'm much more concerned about moral issues.

I have vacillated between voting for the lesser of the two "evils," or not voting at all. If I do the former, I'll be criticized by those who say we Christians shouldn't sell out our values simply because there is no better option. And I can see that. If I (and others) do vote for that candidate, my party will continue to bring forth liberal candidates as viable options. If I (and others) don't vote for that candidate, and he loses big, maybe(?) the party will get the message.

But if I do the latter, and don't vote at all, I'll be criticized by those who say that by not voting, I'm in effect casting a vote for the other candidate (there is some truth to that, as in the Rush lyrics, "If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice"). And there is truth to that. Also, they'll say that by not voting, I've given up my right to complain.

The choices we make can impact our destiny and that of others. Not only because of the policies the candidates will set forth, but also because we'll have to live with the knowledge that we chose as we did for the reasons we did.

Right now I'm leaning toward not voting (OK, bring on the criticisms). But what say you? If you're torn, let me know what you think. And let's all pray for wisdom.

Hero to the rescue

2005-10-17T15:30:00.000-04:00

Teen Adam Silvas witnesses Peggy Jo Connor attempting to cut unborn baby from Valerie Oskin's womb, and does the right thing.

"When I first saw it, I knew it was foul play because it was just very
suspicious happening. The lady acted really weird," he said.
Conner told him
"everything was fine," he said. He said he was going into the woods to ride, and
she "smiled and waved at me."
"I didn't really say too much because I knew
something was wrong. I had seen somebody laying beside the car," he recalled.
Instead he said he raced -- heart pounding, a lump in his throat -- back
home to get his father, Andrew Silvas. The two rushed back to the site, unsure
what they would find.

The story continues:

When they arrived, he said, the woman who was standing had "an eerie calm about
her." He asked her what she was doing. "She said, 'Nothing, nothing.'"
She
told him she was planning to take the bloodied woman to the hospital.
"How
come you didn't ask my son for help?" he said he asked. "She replied, 'I don't
know.'"

How many people these days--especially one as young as Adam Silvas-- would have not only been able to discern the truth in this situation, but have the courage and compassion to take the proper action?

Adam Silvas said he doesn't want to be viewed as a hero, although he's extremely
happy that Oskin and her baby are doing well.
His father said, "I'm extremely
proud of him. He handled himself very well."

Humility, compassion, courage, wisdom. Perhaps Adam doesn't want to be considered a hero because he believes that doing the right thing should be the norm. Would that it were true, Adam, but you've set a fine example for others to follow.

By the way, here's a sickening contrast to Adam's character:

Both [Adam and his father] said Conner sat on the hood of a car and laughed
as they waited for authorities to arrive.

Finally, here's proof that not all sanity is lost in our justice system:

Conner is being held without bail.

Technorati tags: Adam Silvas, hero, Peggy Jo Connor, Valerie Oskin, Armstrong County, Pennsylvania, Ford City

It's not all about me

2005-10-14T14:00:00.000-04:00

The last couple of days have been rather disturbing. Yesterday, just because I let somebody merge in front of me (the traffic was barely moving), the person behind me apparently thought that slowed down his ride by a few seconds--which is simply unacceptable--and so he honked at me. Today, I saw a couple cars refuse to allow cars to merge, again in heavy traffic.

Did you read the story about the woman who faked her pregnancy, then kidnaped a woman in an attempt to cut the baby out of her womb? Indeed, this is an extreme form of the rudeness that is captivating our culture.

Here, Albert Mohler shows the extreme form of selfishness that is being taught at a major university. He discusses Peter Singer, who says our personhood is based on our level of cognizance, and extrapolates to say that therefore a severely retarded human may be less worthy of life than a dog or cat, and that infanticide should therefore be legal. Singer says:

If we compare a severely defective human infant with a nonhuman animal, a dog or
a pig, for example, we will often find the nonhuman to have superior capacities,
both actual and potential, for rationality, self-consciousness, communication,
and anything else that can plausibly be considered morally significant.

And haven't we read so often about how "criminal" it is to take eggs from a nest, but it's "fine" to commit abortion? Singer would widen that divide.

But it goes beyond those who are retarded. Check this out:

The fact that a being is a human being, in the sense of a member of the species
Homo sapiens, is not relevant to the wrongness of killing it; it is, rather,
characteristics like rationality, autonomy, and self-consciousness that make a
difference. Infants lack these characteristics. Killing them, therefore, cannot
be equated with killing normal human beings, or any other self-conscious beings.

So if a woman gives birth, and then several days or even weeks after decides the baby cramps her style, so to speak, she should be able to kill him because he lacks the personhood that Singer deems necessary. The same with old people with dementia in nursing homes (and I wonder if it applies, or will one day, to the mentally astute but bedridden?).

The Bible decries selfishness, and praises those who give sacrificially. A person who takes a life simply to make their life easier, or doesn't allow traffic to merge, is not truly happy. We get more by giving than we do by getting, for the Lord blesses the selfless person abundantly.

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Blog restoration has begun

2005-10-13T13:12:00.000-04:00

OK, for those of you who saw my blog half-naked due to my mistake (see yesterday's post), I have started restoring some of the links. Hopefully in the next few days it will be back to it's lovely self.

Expandable trousers, or expend some energy?

2005-10-13T11:10:00.000-04:00

The pants I'm wearing don't fit like they used to. For years I had not gained any weight; I mean for years. Then, at around 40, it started adding up. I'm now about 20 pounds heavier than I was. And it's not muscle. In fact, I think most of it is around my waist.

I'm coming to like expandable waistbands on my trousers (are there any expandable belts out there, especially when your belt is on its last hole?). When I wear these non-expandable pants, it reminds me how out of shape I am. As long as I'm comfortable, I tend to ignore or at least belittle exercise and healthy eating. For a while I've been telling my wife I'm going to get into better health habits. She has already taken significant steps in that direction. But there's always something I like to do more (isn't that always the case?).

Let's face it. I know that exercise is a good thing, but I want the rewards, not the discipline. I want to be able to tell other people what's best while not feeling obligated to do it myself. Zig Ziglar once said that a hypocrite is a person who complains about the sex and violence on his VCR. In the case of exercise, that seems to be me. In earlier posts I discussed key life areas (Faith, Fitness, Family, Friends, Favor, Finances, Firm, and Fun). Imagine a wheel with 8 spokes, each spoke representing a key life area. Based on how you're doing in each area (1 for poor, 10 for excellent), make a mark on the appropriate spoke--1 is closest to the center and 10 is near the rim. Now connect those dots. Are you able to create a circle with those dots? I know I can't. My physical fitness is near the center, while my fun is pretty high up there. I'm doing well with friends (that's improved in the past couple of years) and family, while firm (career) is dragging somewhat (largely because I'm intimidated by the whole resume and interview process; I do have a job, but there have been some close calls with downsizing). Finances: OK. Faith, greatly improved thanks in large part to the example and blessing of my wife.

So my wheel is quite wobbly. I will hit my fitness and firm much harder in the coming weeks, so they don't get even more "out of shape."

Don't let amateurs like me make major template changes!

2005-10-12T18:56:00.000-04:00

Ooops! I decided to try a new template. They said that some changes I had made would be lost, but I didn't realize it would be all my links, my blog tools, etc. Thankfully I did manage to find my old template cached on Google, so I hope I can figure out how to enter the codes correctly so the information shows up as I'd like it to. I apologize to those of you whose sites I linked to. God willing you'll be back on my page real soon.

God sees the heart above all, and that's the tooth

2005-10-12T18:33:00.000-04:00

A little girl, Briton Nordmeyer, sends her tooth to the Red Cross, hoping the tooth fairy will leave money there for the victims of Hurricane Katrina instead of under her pillow. In the natural world we say, "That's cute," and then under our breaths, "But that's all it is." Some people might even chide the news for carrying such a story. But I think it's an encouraging example of what a good-hearted person with little to offer financially can do. And somebody sent a $500 donation on her behalf (perhaps there were more donations related to her gift). Whatever the final financial results of her offering, God will bless her mightily.

Mark 10: 13-16:
13And they were bringing children to him that he might touch them, and the disciples rebuked them. 14But when Jesus saw it, he was indignant and said to them, "Let the children come to me; do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of God. 15Truly, I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a child shall not enter it." 16And he took them in his arms and blessed them, laying his hands on them. (ESV)

I wonder if the disciples were thinking, We can't let those kids bother Jesus. He's got more important, adult, things to deal with. Seems Jesus not only disagreed with them; He was "indignant." Pretty strong word. How dare we begrudge children from giving anything simply because it doesn't add up to much financially. Jesus shows us that we can learn a lot from a child's innocent offering.

Briton truly believed her gift would make a big difference, and she gave for the right reasons. May God help people see His priorities through this story.

The Holy Bible, English Standard Version Copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a division of Good News Publishers.

Not giving up

2005-10-11T16:07:00.000-04:00

Amazing, huh? 78 hours (over 3 days) later, a boy is pulled from the rubble. Even more amazing, 80 hours after the earthquake, a 55-year-old woman and her 75-year-old mother are also pulled from the rubble.

I'll bet that most people who are able to hang on in such dire circumstances believe there is something worth living for. If a person has low self-esteem, and merely exists day to day, the thought of pressing through severe difficulties may not seem worth it.

Christians most of all should believe life is worth living. Yes, we can be torn between whether to stay here and continue ministering to others, or let the Lord take us to heaven. The Apostle Paul was torn thus. In Philippians 1:21-24, he says, "21For to me to live is Christ, and to die is gain. 22If I am to live in the flesh, that means fruitful labor for me. Yet which I shall choose I cannot tell. 23I am hard pressed between the two. My desire is to depart and be with Christ, for that is far better. 24But to remain in the flesh is more necessary on your account" (ESV).

The deciding factor seems to be that Paul knew he wasn't done with the Lord's work. God had more plans for him. As for us, we should assume that as long as we have breath, we have more of the Lord's work to do.

One man of God (whose name I don't recall at this time) always had a full speaking schedule. Then, one day his calendar was open. This was a clue to him that his days were ending. He didn't choose retirement, and neither should we. God chose to retire him.

Lord, help us to cherish life on earth as long as you would give us the honor of ministering to your glory, and let us indeed "go gently into that good night" when you choose to take us home. In Jesus' name, Amen.

The Holy Bible, English Standard Version Copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a division of Good News Publishers.

How to know what we're really made of

2005-10-10T12:30:00.000-04:00

Looting has followed the earthquake along the India-Pakistan border, as surely as it followed the flooding in New Orleans following Hurricane Katrina, and as surely as it has and will follow other disasters.

I'd like to think that in the midst of a disaster, I would behave honorably. I wouldn't steal (except maybe absolute necessities that couldn't be had any other way) , or shoot at rescuers. I'd like to think so.

I'd also like to think I would jump in front of a car to save somebody dear to me.

The question I must ask myself is, am I generally a selfless, courageous, and God-fearing man? Because only to the degree that I am in normal circumstances can I hope to be so in crises. If I have justified stealing little things here and there, for example, it's possible I might justify stealing bigger items after a crisis. "After all, everybody else is doing it. If I don't take it, somebody else will." Or if I place too much value on comfort and the avoidance of pain, I might very well be less likely to risk my life for another. I read not long ago about a ship sinking, and no longer did "women and children first" apply. Many women and children perished because scores of men took left the ship first. I couldn't see myself doing that, just as I couldn't see myself letting a loved one perish, and couldn't imagine stealing stereos and the like.

Lord, help me to be a man of honor and courage. Show me the heart that Jesus had when he so bravely and selflessly went to the cross on our behalf. Let me be the right kind of man each and every day so that when crises do come I'll continue to honor You. In Jesus' name, Amen.

Digging out the pain

2005-10-05T14:50:00.000-04:00

I was flossing my teeth recently when I hit upon a particularly sensitive area.

So I went at it with extra intensity. Did I want to? Of course not! I hate pain. But I knew that by ignoring the pain it would only become worse.

That area is doing just fine now.

Us men are particularly averse to digging out those painful emotions. We tend to suppress them or "medicate" them with drinking, sex, work, etc. But like sore gums, untreated emotions can lead to even greater pain. I think we often don't even realize we're avoiding the core problem. Sometimes I'll find myself going for the junk food or keeping busy, and only later upon looking back do I realize why I did so. Avoidance.

I need to realize that God isn't looking at my accomplishments. He's more concerned about my heart. My motives. Do I take time to think why I'm doing something? Is it really to do that very thing, or to avoid facing something else? And why do I keep waiting for that sore area to fester rather than hitting it head on? Do I really think it will end up any different if I ignore it?

When my wife and I have disagreements, we know that we can't just let them be. Either we talk it through, or we forgive and let it go. But it's not hanging out there, boiling up inside of us. I know that I have wanted to just walk away from it, but I've learned the hard way that it ends up so much worse if I do.

May the Lord grant me courage to face the painful areas in my life, and the wisdom to root them out properly.

Awareness of the moment

2005-09-30T16:15:00.000-04:00

In Matthew 6:34, Jesus says, "Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble."

This morning I had to be out early to get my car inspected. I was all set. Except for one thing: my keys. I searched all over and was coming up empty. My wife had a day off, but she ended up waking and helping me look. I'm so thankful she puts up with me!

I found the keys. They were left in the front door (I'd better not let anybody know where I live, because I've done it before and I could do it again!).

In the verses before Matthew 6:34, Jesus tells His disciples not to be anxious, for to do so it fruitless, and actually brings more trouble than it's worth. I'm sure my mind was preoccupied when I came home last night. I was already thinking about what was next before I finished what I was doing in the now--taking my keys out of the door.

Not to say that planning ahead is wrong. Proverbs 30:25, talking about that which is "exceedingly wise," says, "The ants are a people not strong, yet they provide their food in the summer." To live in the future and be in a daze for the current moment is foolish. There must be a balance.

Aren't so many of us likely to think about where we're going when we're driving (which is important), but not notice the beauty of God's creation around us? Even as adults, we're thinking, "Are we there yet?" And we miss what matters now. Like keys hanging in the door.

What truly changes minds and hearts?

2005-09-29T15:00:00.000-04:00

Whether it's about Justice Roberts (or now the next Supreme Court nominee) or Hurricane Katrina or abortion or Democrat v. Republican or Conservative v. Liberal or any other issues we're bound to see debated on blogs and editorials and talk shows, or even if it's a personal disagreement with a friend or family member I wonder how often somebody firmly ensconced on one side of the issue, after hearing somebody explain the opposing point of view, says "Hey, you may have a point there. I hadn't considered those factors. Let me rethink this." And if/when that does happen, what led to the change of mind and heart?

I know my major paradigm shift (so to speak) about life came when I embraced Christ as my Savior and Lord. I now believe that Jesus is who the Bible says, and I believe that the moral laws, promises, etc. in the Bible still stand true.

But I also believe in other non-religious issues like a constructionist view of the Constitution, lower taxes, local government preferred over the federal government, the judicial branch not legislating from the bench, etc.

I feel I'm much more "ensconced" in my religious views than in my non-religious views. I hold to the latter quite firmly, for sure, but the "new heart" I was given when Christ came into my life makes me more likely to agree spiritually with Him. Or maybe some of the non-religious views I hold are indeed influenced by my faith in Christ. Hmmm.

Anyway, other than a religious conversion, what has led you to have a change of heart about an issue that you once held firm to, whether religious or otherwise? And what has helped you change the minds of others likewise firmly holding strong to their views? I wonder if much of the opinions being expressed out there do more to shore up the beliefs of the like-minded than to change the beliefs of the opposition?

As for me, I have found that humility is key. Sometimes, when my wife and I get into a disagreement, I'm more often at fault than I care to admit. It's tough saying I was wrong, so I may try to use a non sequitur and find a totally unrelated fault with her. Or I may sulk in silence. Only when I look into my heart and review what I've said or done can I begin to realize my part in causing the problem. It certainly helps to have a wife who is so forgiving and who loves me in spite of my many faults.

There is such animosity out there in the blogs, etc., when it comes to the various issues being debated. Even if a person proves his point, if he does so in a hateful way then the person with the opposing point of view will not admit he was wrong, because he will feel so offended. "I told you so," "you idiot," "you people are sheep," etc., will not quickly endear me to your point of view. But state all the facts--not just those that support your preconceived beliefs, without the ad hominem attacks, and I'll be wise to consider them.

May each of us have the humility and wisdom to accept when we're wrong and know when we're right, and if the latter may we show love in expressing ourselves.

Opening the vent

2005-09-28T16:25:00.000-04:00

OK, one of my big weaknesses is a quick temper, and one thing that gets my goat as much as anything is bad or careless or aggressive drivers. I spend about 2.5 hours on the road every week day, so I see quite a lot of this. You can help make my day better by taking a week of from work and passing this around to everybody you can get your hands on, OK? Of course they'll all gladly follow your suggestion (guffaw, guffaw!).

So, please allow me to vent about of those things that really bug me. If you do any of these, please stop. And if you see anybody else does it, write the link to this site on a piece of paper and show it to the offending driver. Soon, I'll be happy (oh, and you will too!). Also, let me know some of the things that have led you close to road rage.

By the way, I have committed some of these offenses (gasp!), so I'm yelling at myself as well. I mean, we all screw up sometimes, but if you are doing any of these things because you think you have some special right to, then may the next flung booger land on your windshield.

Staying in the left lane
Keeping your blinker on
Turning or changing lanes (especially with a car directly behind) without a blinker
Weaving in and out of lanes
Not yielding right of way on an onramp with two entrances. The person entering on the right has the right of way, unless there is a sign saying otherwise.
Motorcycles that drive between lanes. My understanding of the NJ motor vehicle laws say this is not legal, and is certainly dangerous.
Driving with no lights on in the dark (that includes rainy and foggy weather).
Clearing a tiny space in the windshield to see through the snow or ice on your car.
Driving with several inches of snow or ice on your vehicle. What if in the process of warming and cooling it turns to ice? Huh? HUH?! (oops, sorry about that).
Not responding when I flash my lights telling you it's OK to merge into traffic in front of me.
Merging into traffic in front of me when I have not given the OK. I will usually allow you to go when it's safe, but it's always my prerogative (police, etc. excepted).
Even worse is when you cut right in front of me, though no cars are in sight behind me, and then you go 20 mph under the speed limit.
Sub-woofers.
Driving in the snow/ice as fast as you would drive in normal weather
Not allowing drivers to merge into heavy traffic ("I've just gotta gain that extra 10 feet of space!")
Tailgaters
Driving with perpetual high beams
Not respecting crosswalks
Rubbernecking (all right, you can slow down if there's an accident or a police stoppage on your side of the road, but if it's on a divided highway and the situation is on the other side of the road, pull over to the shoulder, get out a camera, and film away. Or, if it's goriness you want, I'm sure you can rent a DVD with that kind of stuff)
Not stopping at stop signs or before making a right on red
Blocking driveways that clearly say, "Do not block driveway."
Passing on double yellow line
Throwing garbage and cigarette butts out the window
Honking in dead-stopped traffic (what's the guy in front of you going to do?)
Cutting across multiple lanes of traffic to get to an exit ramp
Bypassing the long line of cars in the exit only lane, and then trying to cut in at the last minute.
Outdated campaign stickers (c'mon, you know you hate it too)
Parking in two spaces (yes, with one car!)
Not accelerating to highway speed on the onramp.
Not stopping for school buses picking up children
Putting your brakes on every few seconds while driving down a perfectly clear, straight road.
Changing into the lane I'm in, directly in front of me, even though there is nobody in front of you in your lane, and even though I'm going about 20 mph faster than you, requiring me to swerve into the open lane or slam on my brakes to avoid a collision.

Ah, now I feel so much better (until a week from now when I realize that nobody took my excellent advice--sigh!).

Relatively speaking

2005-09-27T14:52:00.000-04:00

"What is truth?" Pilate asked Jesus (see John 18:37-38).

Too bad Pilate didn't seem to know Jesus's statement in John 14:6--"I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life...." And it's no different today. Starting yesterday through tomorrow, Focus on the Family has been broadcasting a 1982 message by Francis Schaeffer, founder of the L'Abri Fellowship, on the rise of secular humanism in our society and the resulting immorality. He even speaks about the judicial tyranny that is overtaking our nation while our legislators and president barely put up a fight. You can go to the website linked in the title to request the tapes or to listen online.

It seems our culture is answering, "You are so right," to the statement uttered in court by Jack Nicholsons character Colonel Jessep in the movie A Few Good Men: "You can't handle the truth!" Unless it's a "truth" that makes us feel good. It's not politically correct to say anything against homosexuality or unmarried couples having sex, for example, and many companies tell their employees to not only tolerate such ungodly lifestyles but also to value them equally with heterosexual marriage. If you want to abort your child or terminate your elderly parent's life, as is the case more and more, it's fine--so they say, even though the Bible says we should value life.

No longer is it the truth that gets many people's attention, or the mainstream media's attention for that matter. It's a matter of what fits with their pre-conceived notion of what they want to be the case. In 1973, the American Psychiatric Association took homosexuality off its list of correctable traits. In 2003, they debated taking pedophilia off that list, but then changed their minds. But for how long? After all, as Fyodor Dostoyevsky writes in The Brothers Karamazov:

'But what will become of men then?' I asked him, 'without God and immortal life? All things are lawful then, they can do what they like?'

(and):

For if there's no everlasting God, there's no such thing as virtue, and there's no need of it.

(and this chilling statement):

He ended by asserting that for every individual, like ourselves, who does not believe in God or immortality, the moral law of nature must immediately be changed into the exact contrary of the former religious law, and that egoism, even to crime, must become not only lawful but even recognised as the inevitable, the most rational, even honourable outcome of his position.

I think we are seeing that "honourable outcome" of leaving God out of the picture. We need to stand for truth--God's truth, not man-made--before we see our cultures slouch towards Gomorrah (as Robert Bork might say) become a kneeling in worship of such hedonism.

God sets the standard for success

2005-09-26T12:51:00.000-04:00

"For by him all things were created, in heaven and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities--all things were created through him and for him" (Col. 1:16, ESV).

I struggle to realize that I don't set the standards for my success. God does. I'm on this earth because he decided to use me as part of his overall plan, which is too majestic for me to comprehend. And he has created many other components that join together to form his plan. I'm just one small part. Each of us is. At times I want to see myself as being a major player, so that if I didn't do my part it would all come crashing down. Of course that's foolish. Yes, God is most pleased when we willingly and joyfully carry out his purpose for our lives, but he's not hindered when we fail. Failure is such a big part of who we are that I'm quite sure he has figured a way around it (I'm understating, of course). That he uses us at all should not boost our pridefulness but should increase our humility and gratefulness.

A prayer for those in Hurricane Rita's path

2005-09-23T17:22:00.000-04:00

Dear Lord,

We seek your mercy and comfort as this terrible storm approaches. Thankfully it has weakened somewhat, but please help the people in its path realize it is still very dangerous and potentially deadly. Thank you for the many people who are there now and will be there in the coming days and weeks to help make this terrible experience just a little bit more bearable. Let there be harmony among those involved in the upper levels of authority; guide their hearts to you so they can act wisely and swiftly. In Jesus's name, Amen.

Going as we're led

2005-09-23T14:16:00.000-04:00

Proverbs 22:6 says that parents should train their children according to their natural bent. I think it's sad to see parents trying to live their failed dreams vicariously through their children. A father will keep hounding his uncoordinated son to be a football player. A mother will get on her daughter's case for not keeping up with piano lessons. These children will either gravitate back toward what they enjoy doing, or they'll stew in frustration and will rarely excel in what's been cast upon them.

I'm thankful to have had parents who helped me foster what I enjoy doing, and now a wife who encourages me to be who God created me to be. I believe we are doing what we're meant to do when our skills and our passions go hand-in-hand. In fact, I think what we enjoy doing we are usually quite good at (or at least have potential to be good). We can and should seek to improve, but we should also appreciate where we're at, and not keep waiting until we're good enough to bless the world and glorify God with it.

My wife recently started scrapbooking, and she loves it. She had thought about doing it in the past, but was never able to find ample time. I'm so thankful she did start, because our wedding album is beautiful. Our son has a very creative mind. He wrote a funny play, complete with main characters and background characters. They have gotten lost in what they are doing.

If you read my earlier posts about our family's vision (July 6) and my personal mission (August 1), you'll get an idea where my passions lie. I hope I have at least some measure of skill as well in living out my mission. And I pray that each of you knows or soon discovers your natural bent.

Storms just over the horizon

2005-09-22T13:27:00.000-04:00

As I looked recently at a satellite map of the South, I noticed that Texas seemed to be virtually free of clouds. Imagine that, in light of Hurricane Rita approaching. I'm sure that will change quite soon, if not already. It's much like when the devastating Christmas tsunami hit: people on the beach didn't realize what was coming, and most seemed little more than curious when the tide receded further than usual just before the huge wall of water destroyed them and tens of thousands of others.

It may seem things are going pretty well in your life right now, but if you've lived on this earth for any number of years you know that another storm is brewing, and may be very close.

I pray that when things go well for a period of time, we don't get complacent. Not that we should live in fear, but we need to be alert for what the world or devil throws at us.

Attitude retardation

2005-09-21T12:21:00.000-04:00

I was surprised one day when I walked into the restroom to hear a person say hello and start talking to me. In today's culture, that's so out of the norm. I said hello back, and then he told me his name was Joseph. Joseph is mildly retarded.

Every once in a while we'll happen to meet up in the restroom, and each time he'll ask me if bad things ever happen to me, and he brings up a litany of possible bad things I might have experienced. He seems to have had a rough childhood, because he said his mother had hit him with a chair, so I wonder if there has been much good, much hope, in his life.

Today, he asked me the same question, and after a short conversation, I turned it around and ask him if good things happen to him. He said yes, then immediately got back on the subject of bad things.

It may well be Joseph's mental retardation that plays a part in keeping him focused on the bad things. But I see so many seemingly mentally astute people with attitude retardation. Just like a mentally retarded person has "subnormal intellectual development or functioning" (per the American Heritage Dictionary), a person with attitude retardation has subnormal positive attitude development or functioning. But unlike mental retardation, attitude retardation is often a choice. Some people choose to focus on the negative so they can evoke pity. Or they don't want to make something of their lives so they think of excuses for why things are so bad in their lives.

In future posts I will write about some things I have learned about having a proper attitude. One thing I'll say now is that according to Zig Ziglar, we need to have regular input of positive messages because we are bombarded with so many negative messages each day. As 1 Corinthians 15:33 says, "Do not be deceived: 'Bad company corrupts good morals'" (HCSB). If it corrupts bad morals, don't you think that hanging around with negative people will make you more negative?

If you don't already have friends with positive attitudes, find some. And limit your time with the negative attitude friends. If you must be with the latter, bring up postive things (not to mean you should be a Pollyanna, but don't make things worse than they really are). It may take some time, but maybe it will start to rub off. In fact, I'll have to remember to try that with Joseph.

The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth EditionCopyright © 2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company.Published by Houghton Mifflin Company.

Copyright © 1999, 2000, 2002, 2003 by Holman Bible Publishers, Nashville Tennessee.

Hearing only what we want

2005-09-20T12:20:00.000-04:00

My wife and I were stirring from sleep this morning, and our minds were still in a fog. I said something to her that spurred her to smile at me and say, "Good." But when she said that, I was taken aback. For what she thought I had said was, "How are you doing?" What I really said was, "I have to get going." I looked at her in mock astonishment and said, "You mean it's good that I have to get going?" It was then that she laughed and told me what she thought I had said.

People misunderstand each other all the time. I have messed up because I thought I was supposed to do one thing when it was really something else. Perhaps I wasn't close enough to the speaker to hear clearly. Or perhaps my mind was otherwise occupied and I wasn't paying attention like I should have. Or perhaps I was tired and unable to process what was said.

But what if my motive was to hear only what I wanted to hear. I was a big fan of the humor magazine Mad as a youth. They had this one column where they would show how a negative review of a movie or book could be twisted to appear positive. For example, if the review actually said, "The movie was an excellent example of how to make your viewers squirm in their seats with a desire to flee," the review could be read as, "The movie was ... excellent."

Isn't this true of so much of what we see in today? People are more focused on thinking how to progress their agenda than on listening to make sure they know where the other side is coming from. Paul said to Timothy in 2 Timothy 4:3-4, "For the time is coming when people will not endure sound teaching, but having itching ears they will accumulate for themselves teachers to suit their own passions, and will turn away from listening to the truth and wander off into myths" (English Standard Version).

If a politician says anything, it can and will be twisted to suit the pre-conceived beliefs of his supporters or critics. They'll take it out of context, add words, subtract words...whatever it takes to make him look like a hero, a liar, a buffoon, a good-hearted man.

Jesus's words prove Him to be of exemplary character, a great teacher, and, yes, God. For those who don't want to believe that Jesus is God, they'll take His words out of context, or they'll say that those parts of the Bible have been mistranslated...whatever it takes to make him look like anyone else but the One to whom they must be accountable.

If I chose to hear about Jesus only as a good man and good teacher, I'd still be accountable to Him as God. On the same note, I am responsible to make sure I listen to and understand what my wife says, or my church leaders, or my political leaders. May each of us be wise and brave enough to realize that we don't need to doctor the truth; it stands on its own. And if it's not truth, or if it is truth but it's offensive to God, then no amount of doctoring will make it pleasing in God's sight.

The Holy Bible, English Standard Version Copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a division of Good News Publishers.

Obedience to God leads to true success

2005-09-16T14:05:00.000-04:00

Joshua 1:8 says, "This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success" (ESV).

How often does the Bible tell us to seek power, or prestige, or popularity, or position, or pleasure above all else? Rather, we are told to be meek, humble, disciplined, etc. This is such an antithesis of what the world teaches. They say step on people to get ahead, unlike Jesus's admonition to never seek to sit by the host but to go to the seat farthest away and let the host decide to move you to a better seat. They say don't show your emotions, especially if you are a man--unlike Jesus, who wept at Lazarus's death. They say do whatever it takes to be comfortable--unlike those faithful noted in Hebrews 11 who sought obedience even unto their own torture and death.

Hebrews 4:12 says that the word of God pierces deep into our souls. Psalm 19 says God's law revives the soul (v. 7), makes wise the simple (v. 7), gives joy to the heart (v. 8), and gives light to the eyes (v. 8). And Psalm 119 is a treasure trove of the blessings of obedience to God.

So may we take some time each day to chew on the rich feast of Scripture, to be truly satisfied with the true success it offers.

The Holy Bible, English Standard Version Copyright © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a division of Good News Publishers.

Jimmy cut me off, and I don't care(?)

2005-09-15T14:40:00.000-04:00

I overheard a discussion on NJ101.5 this morning about how anger harms not only those we take it out on, but also ourselves, including physiologically.

Here are some Bible verses on human anger. I have added some comments. How are you doing with these?

Proverbs 14:29--"He who is slow to anger has great understanding,But he who is quick-tempered exalts folly." More than once I have embarrassed myself by lashing out in anger, only to later realize I didn't have the facts correct and the person was not at fault.

Proverbs 15:18--"A hot-tempered man stirs up strife,But the slow to anger calms a dispute." Is it that we want to stir up strife? Perhaps our temper adds fuel to the fire, while a calm demeanor is like water dousing the flames.

Proverbs 16:32--"He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty,And he who rules his spirit, than he who captures a city." How many of you have read the fable by Aesop where the sun and wind see who can make a man take his coat off sooner? The wind blows and blows, but the man just holds the coat tighter around himself. Then the sun shines brightly, and the man, now very warm, takes his coat off. We can force a person's hand with power, but we can move a person's heart with warmth.

Proverbs 19:11--"A man's discretion makes him slow to anger,And it is his glory to overlook a transgression." I too often find it "necessary" to respond in some negative way to a wrong committed against me. In my mind, the perpetrator must know the harm he caused, however trivial.

Proverbs 22:24-25--"Do not associate with a man given to anger; Or go with a hot-tempered man, Or you will learn his ways And find a snare for yourself. " I have heard it said that we become like those we are around. This doesn't mean we should never associate with angry people, but the more we are with them the more we'll become angry.

Eccliastes 7:9--"Do not be eager in your heart to be angry,For anger resides in the bosom of fools." Strange enough, it seems some people want to be angry. Maybe like those who want to be sad, they desire attention? Even if somebody were to find a way to ease their anger, they would refuse to be placated. It is foolish, isn't it?

Galatians 5:19-21--"Now the deeds of the flesh are evident, which are: ...outbursts of anger, ...and things like these, of which I forewarn you, just as I have forewarned you, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God." If we inherited hell because we became angry, we'd all perish in that lake of fire. But I believe this passage refers to those whose pattern is one of anger (and other sins).

Ephesians 4:26--"BE ANGRY, AND yet DO NOT SIN; do not let the sun go down on your anger." We know Jesus had moments of anger. We can too, and yet be free from sin while doing so. Is our motive to harm or to help? Have we lashed out in anger, or did we carefully consider how to respond to the situation before taking action? As for not letting the sun go down on our anger, my wife and I live this out. Whenever we have a disagreement, we make sure we resolve it. In fact, we can't find peace in our hearts until we work it out, and I can't recall a time that we went to sleep still angry at one another.

James 1:19-20--"This you know, my beloved brethren But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger. For the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God." I know you all know the cliche about why we have 2 ears and one mouth. But I'm repeating it anyway. How common it is for us to chomp at the bit just waiting to tell our side rather than listening to what the other person has to say. How can God be in that? How can human, sinful anger produce anything godly?

Delay and die (or at least lose out)

2005-09-14T14:35:00.000-04:00

We hear it every time a hurricane threatens. Warnings are sent out, evacuations are encouraged, then ordered. Still, some die hards refuse* to flee for safety, thinking the storm will miss them, or it won't be strong enough, or they don't want to leave their possessions unguarded. Or maybe they think they have a little more time

So many of them do, sadly, die hard.

Procrastination is the root of so many problems in life. It has also been one of my weaknesses. I tend to put things off, then rush to catch up. I leave for work at the last possible moment, then yell at the traffic and the red stop signals. I start late on a project, then as the deadline looms I get anxious because I'm not progressing fast enough. My car needs to be repaired for inspection, but I put that off despite my wife kindly reminding me that time is running out. Again, she's wise enough to know that it's better not to wait, since a part could be unavailable or it could take longer to fix than originally planned.

Recently, an indicator light came on in my car telling me I need oil. Again, my wife was good enough to remind me to check it out. And yes, that's right, I procrastinated. Mind you, we've had rather extensive and expensive car repairs lately, so if the engine was to seize it would have been disastrous. I finally went to a gas station--and it was closed for repairs. So my tension increased: Will I make it to another station? If my car dies, how much will it cost?

Well thankfully I made it OK, and my car is fine.

But what if...?

Things don't always go as smoothly as planned. In fact, they rarely do. We can't control what's around us, only our own actions. So please learn from my errors; if you have somewhere to be or something to repair. Or if you are in potential danger, hope for the best but plan for the worst. Better to play it too safe than be ashamed and hurt and broke.

I realize that comparing car repairs and potential loss of home and life in a storm is unfair. But at the core, procrastination in one area could certainly lead to procrastination in another. If I'm prone to put things off, then will I be more proactive when greater dangers threaten? Or will I, like so many others, keep thinking the storm will pass, or come later, or weaken...blah, blah, blah!!

*Many people are simply unable to flee due to physical or financial infirmities, or other valid reasons, and I don't mean to group them in with the procrastinators.

Bi-annual and annual plans of action

2005-09-13T17:27:00.000-04:00

In recent posts I wrote out my daily and monthly plans of action. Here are my bi-annual and annual plans:

Bi-annual

Take self-assessment (this is a 50-questions assessment that evaluates how I'm doing with living out the MAXIMIZERS principles)
-Compare with previous assessment and evaluate
-Why did I improve or decline, and what can I do better next time?
Aliveness inventory (10 questions that ask such questions as, "Do you have written goals?" "Do you regularly enjoy a hearty belly laugh," etc.
Ask those close to me how they think I'm doing

Annual

How will I know a year from now I've grown in each key area?
Am I moving closer to God's vision for my life?
For information regarding both the above questions, review planner and journal entries.
Reevaluate mission, roles, and goals.

As always, I'd love to hear any suggestions. Tell me what has worked for you, and what hasn't. I want to make my life as meaningful and effective as possible. God bless to you all.